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Sticking to agreed budget
BlueFox
Posts: 450 Forumite
Please bear with me here 
A while ago my family sat down to discuss how much we were going to spend this xmas. We all agreed there is no point buying silly things that nobody really wants just for the sake of having something to unwrap.
We agreed on a figure everyone was happy with. We asked mil if there was anything she wanted but she couldn't think of anything so we decided we would use our initiative, as we do most years and find something we thought she would like. We did exactly that by end Nov and even slightly went over the agreed budget, but we thought that was ok.
Then about a week into December my sister in law told us that mil "really wanted" a dvd costing £37 and that we said we would buy it! We tried to explain we said no such thing and that we had already sorted our presents out so we wouldn't be able to get it. She wasn't happy and tried to "guilt" us into getting it, on top of the presents we had already bought :mad:
Sorry for droning on a bit :eek: but my point is this, what is the point of everyone agreeing a set limit to spend if one person thinks it's perfectly ok for another to go over the budget? If she thought it was so crucial then why can't she buy it herself?
Am I being unreasonable?
Any advice would be very gratefully received
A while ago my family sat down to discuss how much we were going to spend this xmas. We all agreed there is no point buying silly things that nobody really wants just for the sake of having something to unwrap.
We agreed on a figure everyone was happy with. We asked mil if there was anything she wanted but she couldn't think of anything so we decided we would use our initiative, as we do most years and find something we thought she would like. We did exactly that by end Nov and even slightly went over the agreed budget, but we thought that was ok.
Then about a week into December my sister in law told us that mil "really wanted" a dvd costing £37 and that we said we would buy it! We tried to explain we said no such thing and that we had already sorted our presents out so we wouldn't be able to get it. She wasn't happy and tried to "guilt" us into getting it, on top of the presents we had already bought :mad:
Sorry for droning on a bit :eek: but my point is this, what is the point of everyone agreeing a set limit to spend if one person thinks it's perfectly ok for another to go over the budget? If she thought it was so crucial then why can't she buy it herself?
Am I being unreasonable?
Any advice would be very gratefully received
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You're right, so don't let her guilt trip you. You have already bought your gifts and she has no right to try and put pressure on you.
If it's that important she can buy it for your MIL.Cross Stitch Cafe member No. 32012 170-194 2013 195-207.Hello Kitty ballerina 208.AVA 209.OLIVIA 210.ELLA 211.CARLA 212.LOUISE 213.CHARLEY 214.Mother & Child 215.Stop Faffing Completed 2014 216.Stitchers Sampler. 217.Let Them Be Small 218.Keep Calm 219. Ups and downs 220. Annniversary piece 221. 2x Teachers gifts 222. Peacock 223. Tooth Fairy 224. Beth Birth pic 225. Circe the Sorceress Cards x 240 -
Have to agree with Louise here you have bought what you wanted to buy her don't let them make you feel guilty for that, we don't always get what we want and she will just need to learn to accept that:D:jmember of the thrifty gifty 2011 :j0
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Agree completely with above posts. You put thought and effort into the present you've already bought mil, that's all that matters. Sil is missing the point entirely - get her a mince pie and some mulled wine and tell her to calm down a bit, it's Christmas!0
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I agree, mil should have told you what she wanted from the start, Be interesting for you to see if SIL actually buys it for her.!!0
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