CSA how long, or not even bother??

mum2twinsx2

I split with my partner well about 8 weeks ago. We have children together two sets of twins... we were blessed apparently!

He is in the navy, and ive approached few times probabley few times too many in my opinion the subject of him giving me money. He has actively avoided the subject. He just keeps throwing the fact about three weeks ago he brought hat coat scarf snowsuit for little ones so shouldnt have to. Only commited bill he is paying is a mobile phone contract as he is living with is mum and dad.

I really want to get the ball rolling with the csa, i have kept putting it off when i did get to do it the other day i was told to ring back as there systems were down. How long would it take, as he is due to go away with work in march sometime, so wont be recieving post until he returns??

Thanks in advance

TWEETYPIE_3

Hiya,

I think you should Stop stalling and waiting for him to do the right thing, I made that mistake & after almost 4yrs of umming & arhing I screwed myself he registerd as Self employed & now apparently earns no money (not enoogh to qualify a payment of the Min £5 perweek), as harsh as it sounds your fortunate that your ex has a reg. job & from my understanding the forces do not take to kindly to the employees shirking their responsibilities.

Also I might add him buying gifts does not count as maintainance the kids cant eat thoses & CSA wont acknowledge those items as payment.

PS. A hard as I imagine it must be, your deffo blessed

Debicj

If you are certain that he won't pay willingly and you want the CSA involved, then get in touch with them as soon as possible. Try phoning again until you get through. There is a good chance that if you can start things quickly, they will have assessed him by March before he goes away or at the very least they should have made contact with him, meaning that payments will be due and arrears will start building up that he will have to pay eventually.

You can work out roughly how much he should pay. If he doesn't have any other children, 25% of his income will be due via the CSA.

billius_2

Debicj... If he has no other children, it will be 15% of his income!! 15% for one child, 20% for two children, 25% for 3 children or more!!

ACon

he has 4 children?

clearingout

you can make the application online today - takes about 20 minutes. You don't need to speak with them. It took about 14 days between my making the on-line application and them contacting him. If he's avoiding talking about it, he doesn't want to pay and you will spend many months going round in circles if you're not careful - took me 4 months to realise there was no point in waiting for him to see sense. And two years later, I have received one payment only (another one who's self employed!) so don't give him the benefit of the doubt, get on with it!

mum2twinsx2

Thanks for the replies.
Im going to do it online tonight, before its too late. I did not realise the system was so complicated,
You are totally right on the fact the coats he brought does not feed them. Its all starting to add up on my food bill especially as i needed to start weaning like a week ago.

Yeah we have four children two sets of twins and he does not have any other children that either of us know of......

I got locked out this morning with my youngest two in the house me outside and my neighbour luckily is a police officer broke a small piece of glass to open the latch for me. I did ring him and ask if he could help towards cost of a pane glass which is only 15cmx15cm which i assume isn`t going to cost the earth and you would thought i was i asking him to pay for a holiday abroad. I ended up swallowing my pride and asking my dad to help me out.
Ive said to expect a call or letter from the CSA as i was sick of waiting around. He was like oh i will be round tomorrow we will sort something. I stuck to my guns and said no they will sort it. As i just know he will trip up pay nicely for while then stop, typical of his personality.

TWEETYPIE_3

I dont want to worry you, but please dont fall into the trap of 'We will work something out', I'm glad you stuck to your guns. If you have a phone, call CSA now not tomorrow their open until 8pm all you need is his NI No. it makes things easier for them, if you dont have it dont worry, I take it you know his parents address, also if there is a mail address for the Navy this will be useful to CSA (remember however nice they are their his parents, and as a mum yourself you know you always back your own), I contacted CSA mid Sept. by mid Nov I had an answer. They will contacted him first by phone, if he ignores them they then write to him to respond with within seven days to declare his income. If & when he comes tomorrow play the game, but call today.
PS. Just because your not together nothing to stop him paying for a holiday abroad - Dont be emotionaly blackmailed

Debicj

billius wrote: »

Debicj... If he has no other children, it will be 15% of his income!! 15% for one child, 20% for two children, 25% for 3 children or more!!

OP said two sets of twins. I think that means 4 children.

gratefulforhelp_2

So 25% of his income, by no means small fry. You have given him plenty of chances and gifts do not count, these are his children too. And you don't get a woman pregnant twice by accident!!

Get the CSA to ensure he meets his responsibilities.

mum2twinsx2

TWEETYPIE wrote: »

I dont want to worry you, but please dont fall into the trap of 'We will work something out', I'm glad you stuck to your guns. If you have a phone, call CSA now not tomorrow their open until 8pm all you need is his NI No. it makes things easier for them, if you dont have it dont worry, I take it you know his parents address, also if there is a mail address for the Navy this will be useful to CSA (remember however nice they are their his parents, and as a mum yourself you know you always back your own), I contacted CSA mid Sept. by mid Nov I had an answer. They will contacted him first by phone, if he ignores them they then write to him to respond with within seven days to declare his income. If & when he comes tomorrow play the game, but call today.
PS. Just because your not together nothing to stop him paying for a holiday abroad - Dont be emotionaly blackmailed

Thank you im going to ring them now, no reason to put it off. I have all his details so should be easy for them.