Invite wording

Brodiebobs

Afternoon everyone,

Usually hang over on the mortgage free wannabe boards so my first time over here and looking for some advice!

Had a search but havent really found what i'm looking for so thought i'd ask advice from the experts!

Were getting married in cuba in feb, having a evening 'reception' the weekend after we return, invites have been done for a month and we cant decide on the wording!!!!

Were paying for it all so will be from us not parents as it usually traditional, had a few debates as to whether we should put "Mr and Mrs Smith" as we'll be married when we return... or "Miss Brodiebobs and Mr Smith".... also most of the templates online are really formal....

Any Idea's for wording?..... Also while i'm here whats the etiquette on gifts when we already live together... thought about just asking for money, but mum's not impressed thinks its rude, but i dont want a house full of duplicates of what we already have!

Jess_B

We did our invites from us and just used our first names as it was a traditional but informal wedding and that set the presedence for the day.

White_Sapphire

How about along the lines of:

brodiebobs and bloke (first names only) are getting married in Cuba on X February. We would love for you to join us at our wedding celebration on XX February at *location* from *time*.

Re gift list, that's a whole can of worms there!! I would say either do a traditional gift list so that you can 'upgrade' your possessions (eg matching crockery instead of old, chipped and mismatched), or request vouchers for B&Q or similar and have a definite idea of what the money will be used for, eg doing up the garden. If you say something like 'help us turn our house into a home' it will make it seem more like your guests will be helping you with a new start, rather than just giving you money that might end up going on bills or everyday stuff.

katerinasol

For the gifts thing you could put something like, "We want your presence not your presents, however if you do want to give us something, cash or B&Q vouchers would be welcome to turn our house into a home". I think it's only considered rude because it's been traditional until recently to ask for homewares, but if you don't need anything then what's the point?

Brodiebobs

aw thanks very much guys its so simple when someone writes it but we spent hours of blank minds lol...

i like the we request 'presence not presents' is great might pinch that!!!

we thought about asking for money so we could have a 'honeymoon' alone for maybe a weekend as we'll have the kids at the actual wedding and holiday.... but might come across as a bit spoilt!!

White_Sapphire

There's nothing wrong with asking for money for a Honeymoon in my opinion. A lot of couples now do this if a traditional gift list is not applicable or if they don't own their own home to 'do up'! A couple of people on here have used Trailfinder or buy-our-honeymoon.com (? - you might have to google that one ), and I think they allow people to effectively buy certain parts of your honeymoon such as day trips or meals. Sounds better to me than just the cash, which always seems quite impersonal, as they know what their money is being spent on. You could even send photos of yourselves from, for instance, the restaurant that Great Aunt Maud paid for a meal for, to Great Aunt Maud, IYSWIM!

The only reason I didn't mention it was that I wrongly assumed the wedding and honeymoon were sort of together as you are getting married in Cuba - sorry!

Brodiebobs

sapphire- thats why i thought it might come across as a bit spoilt as were having two weeks in cuba but we'll have kids, nephews, neices parents etc with us so weekend alone might be nice.

i've just fired off the wording to the invite lady went for

"Brodiebobs and Mr brodiebobs are getting married in cuba on xxxxx . On our return we would love for you to join us for a celebration of our wedding on XXX at XXXX from xxx until late.

we request your presence not your presents , however you would like to gift us anything cash would be very welcome to enable us to have a weekend away together as husband and wife!"

White_Sapphire

Brodiebobs wrote: »

sapphire- thats why i thought it might come across as a bit spoilt as were having two weeks in cuba but we'll have kids, nephews, neices parents etc with us so weekend alone might be nice.

i've just fired off the wording to the invite lady went for

"Brodiebobs and Mr brodiebobs are getting married in cuba on xxxxx . On our return we would love for you to join us for a celebration of our wedding on XXX at XXXX from xxx until late.

we request your presence not your presents , however you would like to gift us anything cash would be very welcome to enable us to have a weekend away together as husband and wife!"

:T for the wording!

I don't think that the fact that you will be getting married abroad means that asking for money for a honeymoon is spoilt. As you say, there will be family with you in Cuba so you won't get to have much 'husband and wife time'. No-one can begrudge you a little time just to yourselves!