Unprofessional behaviour at 'Interview'

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beckysbobbles wrote: »

Long story short, the 'interviewer' was very unprofessional and tried to come on to me.

Obviously what you describe is very unpleasant and shouldn't have happened but it is hard to see any complaint getting very far.

Presumably there are no witnesses?

So, unless this man broke his company rules by holding the meeting in a pub or tries to claim for more alcohol than is allowed there is no hard evidence of anything improper.

He will presumably deny everything so unless there is some documented history it would be hard for the firm to take any action. It wouldn't constitute a "reasonable belief" of gross misconduct for them to be on sound ground in dismissing him.

Sadly, they would be ill advised to write any meaningful apology as this would be admitting liability.

Finally, it is absolutely nothing to do with your husband.

Sorry, I know this is not what you want to hear and is not because I'm unsympathetic - just realistic.

Pete111

Please don't construe this as my supporting the guy who met you but other than asking you questions about yourself and buying you some drinks - what else did he do? If it was just being a bit 'too familiar' then his behaviour though boorish, is unlikely to be deemed abnormal by his peers - despite what his Mgr says.

The city (and many recruitment consultancys there) remain heavily populated by red blooded alpha males types. Flirting and drinking lots of an evening are common occurances. This job aside, if you want to work there you have got to learn to deal with this behaviour (and far worse I'm afraid) without making formal complaints - if you cannot then you are unlikely to go far. Sad but true.

At the very least, you have got to ensure that when you do decide make a complaint, you have enough ammunition to ensure a massive payoff!

beckysbobbles

RacyRed wrote: »

Good for you in reporting this prat.

Sounds to me as if he is a bit of a chancer and the "interview" was never official or required, if this guy is fairly junior he would not be the person with whom your salary and t&cs would be discussed with. But you would not be in a position to know that.

Re your husband, point out clearly and firmly to him that he is making a bad situation worse and that if he cannot support you in a constructive manner he cannot expect to be consulted the next time you have a problem. He is not owed an apology, you are.

My point exactly, I've told him this and he is not being very supportive but that's for another section of the forum.:(

beckysbobbles

Pete111 wrote: »

Please don't construe this as my supporting the guy who met you but other than asking you questions about yourself and buying you some drinks - what else did he do? If it was just being a bit 'too familiar' then his behaviour though boorish, is unlikely to be deemed abnormal by his peers - despite what his Mgr says.

He asked me if I would kiss him and if I found him attractive. Surely that is in no way professional or acceptable. Especially considering I had told him I'm married.

teabelly

If you just said you were married rather than 'no you've got a face like a badger's posterior and I'd rather kiss one of those' he'd have assumed you were interested if he's that much of a boorish prat You were right to report him.

maninthestreet

beckysbobbles wrote: »

He asked me if I would kiss him and if I found him attractive. Surely that is in no way professional or acceptable. Especially considering I had told him I'm married.

Dear God, he's a complete and utter liability to his employer!

Pete111

beckysbobbles wrote: »

He asked me if I would kiss him and if I found him attractive. Surely that is in no way professional or acceptable. Especially considering I had told him I'm married.

Ah well, you see there he strayed from 'generic leering' into 'stupid move with career damaging consequences'

Fair enough BB's. I stand by what I said however - The City is still relatively un PC and this type of behaviour sadly isn't uncommon.




I have to ask though - what was the kiss like?

beckysbobbles

Pete111 wrote: »

Ah well, you see there he strayed from 'generic leering' into 'stupid move with career damaging consequences'

Fair enough BB's. I stand by what I said however - The City is still relatively un PC and this type of behaviour sadly isn't uncommon.




I have to ask though - what was the kiss like?

I would like to give you a virtual punch but that's not very nice.

It's not a good time at the moment so his behaviour has just added stress.

Pete111

beckysbobbles wrote: »

I would like to give you a virtual punch but that's not very nice.

It's not a good time at the moment so his behaviour has just added stress.

Humble Apologies - merely trying to lighten the mood!!

All the best.

P

ShaneUK

Wouldn't it be funny though if you were to take the job - find out if he has a girlfriend/wife/partner - and tell THEM what happened

Why should you lose out on a job - that really isn't fair, especially in the current economic climate.

Best of luck in finding alternative employment elsewhere