Unprofessional behaviour at 'Interview'

beckysbobbles

I'm not sure how to deal with a situation. I was offered a new job as a recruitment consultant last week, they wanted to arrange a second catch up to discuss salary/targets etc

It was arranged to meet in a resturant/pub for a drink to discuss things informally.

I didn't expect what happened. It started off fine, asking questions like what are my strengths/weakness but then he asked what my sin's are and I blushed (as I didn't expect a question like that) and from then he seemed to be very personally.

I thought he was just being overly friendly so was still keen to proceed with the meeting but then he ordered shots to 'seal the deal'.

Long story short, the 'interviewer' was very unprofessional and tried to come on to me.

Obviously I am not going to talk the job as the mans a jerk but I don't know how to deal with it.

Do I call and explain outright or just send an email saying I've changed my mind?

maninthestreet

Send a letter to his employer describing his behaviour - you were the victim of sexual harrassment. He would not behave the same way if he was interviewing a man.

Arbitrax

If you felt uncomfortable by the interviewer's actions, then he is in the wrong. I would recommend getting some professional advice from your local Citizens' Advice Bureau. If you don't feel comfortable bringing the complaint yourself, they will be able to advise the steps necessary to do it through a tribunal.

dickydonkin

Why could the 'catch up' not have been held at the location where the employment was based? - informal is one thing - one to one in a pub is another - although I hasten to add I am not blaming the OP for that.

The only problem here is that it is one word against the other, however, as the OP has decided not to take the job, realistically, there really is nothing else to 'deal with'. Best out of it IMO.

beckysbobbles

Thanks for the replies.

It's difficult as sometimes things in the city (London) are very social and informal but I did not expect that.

It's just all such a mess.:(

HO87

Have you formally accepted the job and left your old one? If your answer to both is "yes" then decline the job and move one. Why waste your time pursuing this idiot? Complain yes, but if you continue to go for the job you are likely to have to face this guy again. That's going to make for an uncomfortable situation. Do you willing stand outside in the wet when its raining?

greytroot

IMHO send a recorded delivery letter to his employer/boss - just state facts and not what you think happened etc. Then express your concerns regarding accepting the job. Keep it clean and simple. Ask for a reply as to what they are going to do within 14 days (or what ever you think is acceptable).

dickydonkin

greytroot wrote: »

IMHO send a recorded delivery letter to his employer/boss - just state facts and not what you think happened etc. Then express your concerns regarding accepting the job. Keep it clean and simple. Ask for a reply as to what they are going to do within 14 days (or what ever you think is acceptable).

The OP has clearly indicated her intentions here:

Obviously I am not going to talk (sic) the job as the mans a jerk but I don't know how to deal with it.
Do I call and explain outright or just send an email saying I've changed my mind?

What she is requesting is how to communicate her decision.

Giving the company a timescale of 14 days (to do what?) seems pointless as the job offer is not going to be accepted anyway.

Indeed, for all we know, the person who 'interviewed' the OP could himself be the MD/Employer.

I would not communicate by email or phone, but I would write a formal letter giving reasons for declining the job offer, and word the missive very carefully as suggested.

beckysbobbles

Just thought I would give you an update.

I have now spoken to his manager (as he interviewed me first time) and explained everything.

He said the meeting shoul've been at the office and even if it was in a pub they have a company policy on amount of alchol to drink.

He has apolgised on behalf of the company and has said there will be a meeting with this man this afternoon.

I said I want a written apology.

My husband is fuming with it all and is actually making things worse. His said he wants an apology as well for the way his treated me. I know this request is plain stupid but my husband wont back down and I'll worried he'll try and speak to the man direct :-(

teabelly

Guy is a sleeze but on the upside his manager now knows it. Wait and see what happens. He might get the push

RacyRed

beckysbobbles wrote: »

Just thought I would give you an update.

I have now spoken to his manager (as he interviewed me first time) and explained everything.

He said the meeting shoul've been at the office and even if it was in a pub they have a company policy on amount of alchol to drink.

He has apolgised on behalf of the company and has said there will be a meeting with this man this afternoon.

I said I want a written apology.

My husband is fuming with it all and is actually making things worse. His said he wants an apology as well for the way his treated me. I know this request is plain stupid but my husband wont back down and I'll worried he'll try and speak to the man direct :-(

Good for you in reporting this prat.

Sounds to me as if he is a bit of a chancer and the "interview" was never official or required, if this guy is fairly junior he would not be the person with whom your salary and t&cs would be discussed with. But you would not be in a position to know that.

Re your husband, point out clearly and firmly to him that he is making a bad situation worse and that if he cannot support you in a constructive manner he cannot expect to be consulted the next time you have a problem. He is not owed an apology, you are.