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Debt Advice

My boyfriend is struggling to keep up with payments on his debt and things are begining to snow ball. He has 2k on an AA credit card 1.5k on a barclay credit card and 2k overdraft with Halifax which is currently adding £30 a month on each month for charges. We have tried to get a loan to consolidate but we have been rejected a number of times including with our own banks and also via credit cards. He feels very down with the situtation and we would really do with some advice on where to go from here.
Thanks in advance
Kellbing
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  • Gordon_Hose
    Gordon_Hose Posts: 6,259 Forumite
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    Is he in arrears, or keeping up with minimum payments?

    He could speak to his creditors and explain he's having trouble, they may be able to freeze interest for a bit to help.
  • Tixy
    Tixy Posts: 31,455 Forumite
    Hi Kellbing

    Do you know why he is struggling to keep up with repayments? Has his income dropped at all or is it more that he just kept increasing the debts a bit until they are an unmanagable level?

    The best first step for him is to work out a detailed statement of affairs http://www.makesenseofcards.com/soacalc.html to see exactly where his money is going each month and how much he should have left for debt repayments. Once you know that you can start deciding on a course of action.
    If you/he post the statement of affairs on here people should be able to advise on what his possible options are and also if there are areas he could save any money to make the repayments easier.
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  • kellbing
    kellbing Posts: 25 Forumite
    he is keeping up with the min payments but feels he is going no where in getting rid of the debt.
  • Gordon_Hose
    Gordon_Hose Posts: 6,259 Forumite
    Debt-free and Proud!
    Post up an SOA as Tixy suggested, we can see if there's possible money saving areas.
  • kellbing
    kellbing Posts: 25 Forumite
    hi all just spoken to my bf and this is what he is currently paying. I he pays the mortgage car related payments and any of his own debt and i pay for all other house payments i.e food c tax insurances tv utilities etc
    I am unsure of most apr rates and what the current mortgage debt is so i have put the initial figure whcih we got in apr 2008 at 7.9 apr we are now tracking with the boe br with 1.99% added on top. Sorry if it is vague but im not v clued up :) Again all help appreciated.

    Statement of Affairs and Personal Balance Sheet

    Household Information

    Number of adults in household........... 2
    Number of children in household......... 0
    Number of cars owned.................... 1

    Monthly Income Details

    Monthly income after tax................ 1400
    Partners monthly income after tax....... 0
    Benefits................................ 0
    Other income............................ 0
    Total monthly income.................... 1400


    Monthly Expense Details

    Mortgage................................ 430
    Secured/HP loan repayments.............. 0
    Rent.................................... 0
    Management charge (leasehold property).. 0
    Council tax............................. 0
    Electricity............................. 0
    Gas..................................... 0
    Oil..................................... 0
    Water rates............................. 0
    Telephone (land line)................... 0
    Mobile phone............................ 30
    TV Licence.............................. 0
    Satellite/Cable TV...................... 0
    Internet Services....................... 0
    Groceries etc. ......................... 0
    Clothing................................ 0
    Petrol/diesel........................... 30
    Road tax................................ 60
    Car Insurance........................... 40
    Car maintenance (including MOT)......... 0
    Car parking............................. 0
    Other travel............................ 0
    Childcare/nursery....................... 0
    Other child related expenses............ 0
    Medical (prescriptions, dentist etc).... 0
    Pet insurance/vet bills................. 0
    Buildings insurance..................... 0
    Contents insurance...................... 0
    Life assurance ......................... 0
    Other insurance......................... 0
    Presents (birthday, christmas etc)...... 0
    Haircuts................................ 0
    Entertainment........................... 0
    Holiday................................. 0
    Emergency fund.......................... 0
    Total monthly expenses.................. 590



    Assets

    Cash.................................... 0
    House value (Gross)..................... 80000
    Shares and bonds........................ 0
    Car(s).................................. 4000
    Other assets............................ 0
    Total Assets............................ 84000



    Secured & HP Debts

    Description....................Debt......Monthly...APR
    Mortgage...................... 93000....(430)......2.49
    Total secured & HP debts...... 93000.....-.........-


    Unsecured Debts
    Description....................Debt......Monthly...APR
    aa.............................3000......100.......0
    halifax........................900.......0.........0
    barclays.......................1400......50........0
    car............................4200......130.......0
    loan...........................5000......198.......0
    Total unsecured debts..........14500.....478.......-



    Monthly Budget Summary

    Total monthly income.................... 1,400
    Expenses (including HP & secured debts). 590
    Available for debt repayments........... 810
    Monthly UNsecured debt repayments....... 478
    Amount left after debt repayments....... 332


    Personal Balance Sheet Summary
    Total assets (things you own)........... 84,000
    Total HP & Secured debt................. -93,000
    Total Unsecured debt.................... -14,500
    Net Assets.............................. -23,500
  • Pollycat
    Pollycat Posts: 35,917 Forumite
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    edited 28 October 2010 at 1:32PM
    Hi
    Maybe check the car tax - £60 per month is £720 per annum.
    Also, the figures in the SOA don't quite match up to what you say:
    He has 2k on an AA credit card 1.5k on a barclay credit card and 2k overdraft with Halifax which is currently adding £30 a month on each month for charges.
    Anyway, from the figures you've given, your BF should be able to do more than just keep up with the minimum payments.

    So you need to find out where all that surplus is going each month and the key to that is for him to keep a spending diary and put down EVERY penny he spends that is not covered in his SOA.

    I'll bet there'll be coffees, lunches, newspapers etc.
    Once you identify where the money is going, he can stop spending it and start throwing it at his debts.

    ETA
    there's loads of things that I'd expect to be in the SOA (unless you pay it) such as haircuts, entertainment etc - maybe this is where the £332 per month is going.
  • Gordon_Hose
    Gordon_Hose Posts: 6,259 Forumite
    Debt-free and Proud!
    He's got money left over according to that SOA!
  • kellbing
    kellbing Posts: 25 Forumite
    hi pollycat
    my mistake the tax is 60 every 6mths :o
    the figures on the soa are defo the debt figures i hadnt spoken to him when i put the first message on got a little confused.

    I suppose like everyone he wants to have fun and live his life but it seems he is spending more than he earns on some months and he gets really down about it tbh it puts strain on our relationship because all he seems to do is worry about money and most probably spends on him self to make him feel better.
  • kellbing
    kellbing Posts: 25 Forumite
    i cut his hair lol so he doesnt have to pay that we dont go out very often maybe 1 a month if that id say we spend about £20 oncea week on a takeaway but he also does like to gamble on a weekend.
  • MFWannabe
    MFWannabe Posts: 2,481 Forumite
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    kellbing wrote: »
    i cut his hair lol so he doesnt have to pay that we dont go out very often maybe 1 a month if that id say we spend about £20 oncea week on a takeaway but he also does like to gamble on a weekend.

    this could well be where his problem exists then and could be the root of his debts. Do you know how much he gambles?
    According to the soa he should have money left over and could pay more towards his debts but if he's gambling this amount then that's why he has nothing
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