OS Menu Plan for a vry fussy eater

snugglepet20

My OH was just like this. Basically his mother is the worlds worst cook and take-away tasted like gourmet to him. He would not touch a vegetable, now he eats the lot probably because I do not boil them for 4 hours until they disintegrate into grey mush :rotfl: It is a hard battle but try making a new thing and saying just try it, if it's no good we won't have it again, eventually he will stop resisting and discover he likes it. Also never reveal the true ingredients, everything is made from a combination of his usual foods .

OH still will not eat onions or mushrooms though and I am willing to let this go even though I think he used this 'dislike' to get out of eating his mums food and have oven chips. I am milk intolerant as well so recipes are always modified in our house (and I refuse to make seperate food).

funkymonkey849

My OH was like this when I first met him, he hardly ate any vegetables and hadn't tried even tried loads of things like chilli or noodles.

Anyway I took the viewpoint that he could either eat it or fend for himself. Amazing how adventurous he suddenly became!

Start by modifying a few known meals to include different things, and if he doesn't like something then try it a different way. I found the easiest way is to sneak disliked foods in by chopping up small or in a sauce. Chances are he won't even realise and then you can have a bit of a gloat after the plate has been licked clean :rotfl:

My OH never complains about food and only leaves it now if he really doesn't like something. I think understanding how much money can be saved by not being fussy really helped too.

mlz1413

I do a bulk shop at the butchers and then bag everything into single portions and freeze it. Each morning getting out whatever we are going to eat that night or getting out 2 lots of meat if I'm intending to use the SC the next day.

This means there is nothing in the fridge to be eaten (BTW I don't have a mircowave so no quick defrost option either)

This maybe the way the to go with you OH.
Do a meal plan for the week and stick to it.
Cook and serve up the meal and if he doesn't like it then let it cool and freeze it for a different nights meal.
Let him cook something he does like or go hungry.

BE FAIR about the meals, so that he does get to eat things he likes during the week. He eats a fair amount that you can add spice / veg to after the inital cook.

If he is a fussy eater and has let his daughter be a fussy eater with added bad habits it maybe something from home life that has led to this. If you think he wants to tackle his eating habits than talk to him about it but if he is not ready to talk then just set the rules and budget and stick to it.

butterflylady131

The only thing with leaving him to fend for himself, is that he will either eat a full packet of biscuits with a pot of tea instead of a meal ( I don't buy them any more!), or just get toast! And when he goes to his mother's he'll tell her I'm not feeding him properly, and she'll give him whatever he wants, usually loads of carp! Doesn't help that his family don't like me, and will willingly interfere at any given cost to split us up.

I can't really modify any meals, as we have to eat things such as packet chicken breasts in sauces (must be chicken breast-he will not eat meat on the bone), chips and if there's a choice of veg, he'll choose to go without. He will eat most prepckaged foods, eg steak pie, no mushrooms, or mince pie (but won't eat mince!), but when I try to show him the way food should look and taste, he just clams up, and starts shouting like a toddler! "I DON'T LIKE IT!"

Sigh! Feels like I already have a child!

mlz1413

we just crossed posted.

If you have that type of battle on your hands I would just insist he puts more into the food budget than you and then take up the food issues as you deal with them with your new baby.

Fighting him and his family is pointless, ensure you are happy with your relationship and put the food issues aside., save your energy for your baby.

butterflylady131

I deal with the food budget because he puts all his wage into the joint account, which I control, as he relinquished any money dealings when it became apparent he was getting us into astronomical debt very quickly! I deal with everything house and home related, cleaning, cooking, paying the bills, looking after and picking up SD from school and taking her to school. As well as this I work 30 hours a week as a admin assistant, and am 22 weeks preggers, so feeling a lil tired!

RAS

What do you get out of this relationship?

butterflylady131

Don't know if it's pregnancy hormones, but I'm beginning to wonder.......:(

Maisy_Moo

My husband of 11 years is equally as fussy. He will not touch any vegetables of any sort except potaotes and when I say potatoes, I mean chips or roast. He will not eat mash, jacket spuds etc.
He will also not eat any sauces of any kind including gravy and only likes 'real' meat ie no mince etc or kidneys.
I constantly moan to my mil that he was clearly spoilt as a child.:mad:
I let him do all of his own cooking and go shopping with him to ensure that he is not allowed to spend too much. If he acts like a child, treat him like a child.;)
He eats meat and chips every night :eek:and I just cook for myself and dd who is 14. She will eat almost anything put in front of her as she knows that there is no choice - eat it or go without.
It is a real pain and I understand just how you feel. There is no chance of ever eating in a nice restaurant as there will be nothing on the menu to suit him.
In 11 years, I've managed to convert dh to scampi (whoop de doo), scallops and a quorn roast.

Suggest you meal plan for yourself - make one and freeze one and leave him to do his own thing or eat what he gets.
Good luck

adelight

That would drive me crazy! Does he realise if he doesn't get a grip and man up there won't be enough money when baby comes? Does he think he's more important than the rest of you? If he won't budge tell him to go out and earn the extra money to fund his fussy ways!
My BF used to be quite fussy, very mothered, managed to drill it into him that chicken breast is too expensive and chicken on the bone is just as good(i didn't like chicken on the bone either 'til i realised it was that or nothing!) and he's started eating my stews and doesn't notice when I slip lentils etc in to thicken/bulk. Will he eat stew/soup? You could offer him gammon(offer at lidl & budgens atm) & veg stew, but would he just pick out the chunks and leave the liquid rather than mopping it up with some bread & butter?
Does he eat pizza? HM pizza is easy and another way to smuggle tomatoes into his food and use bacon and cheese more sparingly.
Pasta? Cheesy gammon sauce? Pasta sauce of tomatoes and grated veg?
Smuggle more veg into curry and add the spice after for you. Would he eat, say, bombay potatoes? They're quite cheap and easy to make. Make burgers from mince, grated veg and lentils and melt cheese on top before he gets a peek at them.