Breaking up, what happens now?

cunners

I could ask her to leave yeah, but what if she doesnt go, I dont really have a leg to stand on. I was thinking I could phone the police but Im not sure.

There is no spare room anyway, we are both in seperate beds so sister would have to sleep on floor/sofa. I can see it just being a threat since why would anyone give up their home to sleep on someones sofa to look after a dog. Doesnt make sense.

I know putting it up now will speed things along but it just adds undue pressure to everything. And since we are both confident of buying the other out its totally unneccessary. From what I have read, many solicitors advise against going ahead with a property owned for less than a month as mortgage companies dont like it.

I can't tell you how anxious and worried I am about everything, Im going to turn into a blubbering mess.

Does anyone have any thoughts on adding my dad to the application, should it be OK? He's 51 with a good job and no other mortgage. My worry is his age.

surreybased

Oh grief, seems to have got difficult.
Just to clarify - she's not planning to move out herself BUT move her sister in as well...You could counter and suggest you move someone else in but what a crazy situation!! (& not one I'd recommend)
Try not to stress too much - You are proceeding with the buy out option - it will take weeks, many 2 months but if you can go this route then the place will be finally yours and you can get rid of both of them!

Let us know how it's going

(just out of interest how long did you know g/f before buying together?)

cunners

We had been seeing each other for 3 and a half years and have been living together for 2 of those at a rented place. She always wanted to buy a house and now we finally have one its all gone wrong. We argued a lot during the move, as I thought was understandable due to the stress etc.

Moving her sister in aswell yeah, who currently lives with their parents. In fact if my buy out fails she is going to try with her sister to buy me out. Which I think is a no-go because her sister is always getting chased for money by phone companies and the like.

Im worried about my dads age and nothing else, everything else seems fine to me aslong as they are fine with him being 51.

getmore4less

You could get your dad to have someone he knows(but you two don't) come round a view the place,

Dad then makes a low offer so that she would have to make up part of a shortfall. Does she have any money to do this?

If you are doing a jont ortgage then the age issue wil be less of a problem, some lenders do use the youngest up to 65 and oldest up to a higher age 70/75 helps if there is a pension due.


In the mean time carry on with the investigation to transfer the mortage to you and dad with his cash injection.

If you realy think it is over with the GF,

Don't forget to hit on the sister big time and get some mates round to do the same to the sister and the GF:D

cunners

Well she has again said today that she is moving her sister in. I just phoned Shelter for advice.

They said I can ask her to leave and she has no legal rights, but then my ex can ask her to come back the next day - to and fro. What a nightmare.

I couldnt hit on her sister, if you saw her you'd know why

getmore4less

cunners wrote: »

I couldnt hit on her sister, if you saw her you'd know why

I wouldn't live with 1 dog never mind 2.