CSA assessment - so annoyed

LittleMissInDebt

To cut a long story short, have finally applied to CSA to try and get some support from the father of my two children, who has generally contributed nothing (even when we were together) to either of them. Anyway he doesn't work so I realised it would be at the minimum, but they called me tonight to say that since he has ONE of his children for two nights out of 14 I would get nothing!!!

I have set them straight as he certainly doesn't have even one for two nights, so I will now get the grand total of £5 a week :eek: I just find it amazing that someone who can't be bothered to get a job, has his rent, council tax etc paind for and still get's benefits (which he spends on drugs and take-aways) only has to pay that much, it's less than his weekly McDonalds coffee bill.

Arrrgh, oh I know it is what it is, but it's so frustrating!!!

Sorry just needed a vent really.

markeymark

totally sympathise with u on this

i hope that any contact he is getting with your kids is closely monitored if he is using drugs?

gratefulforhelp_2

Wot markeymark said.

clearingout

Appreciate your frustrations. It's not fair. Never will be.

In my circumstances, however, I would appreciate the cursory £5 a week as I have a self-employed ex who gets away with giving us nothing at all!

Ah well, maybe they'll catch up with him soon!

LittleMissInDebt

Thanks everyone for the replies. I have thought about reporting his drug use, but he does keep it away from them and the times he has them - what gets to me is his priorities - how on earth can drugs and take aways be more important than our girls...

Oh well, I suppose as Clearingout pointed out, it could be worse, I hope they do catch up with your ex Clearingout!!

Thanks again x

Blob

Drug use is one of the reasons that contact can be stopped without comeback on you by the Courts. They will say that the contact if there is any at all will happen in a contact center, where he will be watched and checked for drugs.

JulietAmber_2

Hopefully, seeing his child will give him the incentive to clean himself up. Aswell as condeming him, monitoring and supervising the visits - hopefully someone will reach out and offer him some help. There's usually 2 sides to a story and drug use is an addiction, and can be lonely and scary.
Whether he takes it or not is a different matter but I hope for his child's sake he does.

nuttyelle

I know how you feel, i have an ex that just refuses to pay anything to me or to CSA for me, he tried denying our daughter was his, so i let the DNA be done, which proved he was, i got one payment of £175 from him and amazingly he was discharged from army. countless times since csa has caught him n hes run, and now hes even lied sayin self employed no money and refuses to pay the £5 a week they told him to... funny thing is his facebook isnt private, anyone can see his employers name, the fact he works 14-15hour days 5 days a week, and then goes out at weekend and blows the lot on booze and coke.
and amazingly theres nothing i can do about it, just spend my money on calls trying to get them to do something.
he even had cheek to tell them my ex should pay for her as hes been the father figure in her life (the 'sperm donor' disappeared when i was 20week preg and i met my ex when she was a few month old, and have had another child with him, but unfortunatly split 6years later.)

i dont get how they can get away with it. i am really trying, ive got a job to start and im struggling to get money to pay childcare upfront thats needed for me to work, unless its suddenly made legal a 7year old to be in charge of a toddler, but even then i wouldnt leave them.

it makes me sick they can get away with paying nothing at all.... especially when i know they both have a decent wage come in.

oh yes icing on cake was him turning up in her life for a few month, messing her head up, letting her down and then disappearing on her and leaving me to pick up the peacesl.

I wish you all the luck in the world getting a penny out of him through the CSA

Blob

"CSA is unfit for purpose" Tony Blair when he was PM

"A law written this way brings the Law into disrepute" Lord Justice Wolf

I am not a person of the knowledge of the 2 above but can they both be wrong?

dazzadub

but the contact centre must be witness to drugs being taken or feel that drugs have been taken before contact takes place but this is subject to a court granting a drugs test.

if you were to make a complaint to the court about drugs and a test showed him clar this would go againt you and court would see that you were trying to stop contact for no reason

you need solid proof

kelloggs36

Print off the evidence and ask them to investigate.