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CSA help needed urgent.
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I'd just like to say to the people saying why should the taxpayer pay instead of the father. How about, because if the taxpayer had to pay the respite provided by the father (not that the state would), it would cost far, far more? And if the father has to pay csa, he possibly would no longer be able to provide respite?
How many nights a week does he stay with his father? Does the amount of respite his father offers reduce his ability to work, meaning that if he has to pay CSA will he have to work more, reducing your respite hours, increasing the burden on social services?
Try talking to your MP, I don't know much about the CSA but there might be something he can do.
AmesUnless I say otherwise 'you' means the general you not you specifically.0 -
there is always cases that will tug at everyones heart strings - however the taxpayer cannot pay individual peoples responsibilities for them, or else where would it end? everyone would try to dodge if they thought they could get away with it.
The father provides respite, that is great but it does not give him "credits" with the csa, the mother is claiming benefit therefore the csa will recoup some of what the taxpayer is paying from the father, ok the csa is fairly rubbish, however the basic principle of the csa works.
it is my understanding that the father works, so he provides respite in addition to working.... we all have to work and look after our kids.
if you are an absent parent(male or female) and you work then a percentage of your income has to be paid to the resident parent.
There are too many people that still believe that they can some how get away with not paying, the thinking should not be "how do I avoid this?" it should be "i must face up to my responsibilities" and if that includes helping with respite care then that is the hand that you have been dealt.
I do realise the csa *** up a lot of cases (mine included)0 -
Could you clarify? I cannot see any connection at all between the fact that you have no other family and the fact that your ex has not paid any maintenance for your son. Whether he helps physically is irrelevant unless he has your son overnight - if the case is 10 years old then he would have to have him overnight for 104 nights per year to qualify for any discount.
Ask them for a statement which will show the effective date of the case and the assessments for those periods.
If you have been on benefits, then the only reason the CSA would agree not to pursue your ex is if you made a statement with a visiting officer, or in the office, confirming that you would be under threat of violence and therefore show 'good cause' for them not going after him. If you did not apply for 'good cause' then they are obliged to pursue him.0 -
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Originally Posted by flufff
.However in my case as I have no family without me asking as my sons special needs they told me they werent pursuing him as it was more help to me him helping me with our son.
the CSA are saying that to you, but then are sending your ex a bill, is that what you are saying if it is then they are telling stories
Income support said they werent pursuing him for maintenance.But now hes had demand for 45k has till 5th october to comply.Hes just got married as well.Ive spent all morning on phone keep getting hung up on.Nobody will deal with it.Income support need to pull my file out.Compliance officer is coming back out to me to do a good cause letter that they appear to have lost.I'm at my wits end.0 -
this if first communication since 1997.Yes he has him at weekends nowx well has for this last year.0
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Yes i would need respite without his help and I dont want strangers looking after my son.0
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flufff wrote:Income support said they werent pursuing him for maintenance.
Maybe this is where the misunderstanding has come from. Income Support do not deal with maintenance, CSA do. From the CSA's point of view he has not paid, I don't understand why its gone back 10 years though. As another poster said it is from the date a claim went in. Are you sure a claim wasn't put in 10 years ago?0 -
Ames wrote:I'd just like to say to the people saying why should the taxpayer pay instead of the father. How about, because if the taxpayer had to pay the respite provided by the father (not that the state would), it would cost far, far more? And if the father has to pay csa, he possibly would no longer be able to provide respite?
How many nights a week does he stay with his father? Does the amount of respite his father offers reduce his ability to work, meaning that if he has to pay CSA will he have to work more, reducing your respite hours, increasing the burden on social services?
Try talking to your MP, I don't know much about the CSA but there might be something he can do.
Ames
I don't see how a father provides a 'respite' service.It is like saying you babysit your own child. Parents look after their own children because it is their responsiblity, not because they are providing a public service. I have a daughter with additional needs, I am a single parent (with 7 nights per week care), I work full time in a very demanding job to pay the bills because it is my responsiblity to look after my child. I would not expect the state to let me off my financial responsiblity to my child because I provided an alternative to respite.
I am very supportive of single parents who do choose to be on benefits to look after their child. As a teacher, I see so many children who suffer a neglect that comes with the drive for affluence. However when this father has five days a week when he doesn't have to care for his child, why shouldn't he pay? On weekday nights he comes home to none of the heavy demands imposed by a child with additional needs.
I am though sorry for the OP, who seems to be getting a hard time from him because he doesn't want to meet his responsibilities.0 -
How is it fair to my son demanding 45k off his Dad?I wont see any of this,nor will it help my son.He will lose his home and says they can take away his driving licence amongst other things.He drives for a living.
Hes been to Cab today.I spent all morning on phone.Csa cant say even if this is an automated letter and cant seem to put us through to the person it was sent by although it shows on their system.
Ive heard through a friend of this happening to someone else,so was hoping someone on here could advise.
I'm thinking of writing in but if its computer generated am I opening a can of worms and making things worse for him.0 -
flufff wrote:How is it fair to my son demanding 45k off his Dad?I wont see any of this,nor will it help my son.He will lose his home and says they can take away his driving licence amongst other things.He drives for a living.
Hes been to Cab today.I spent all morning on phone.Csa cant say even if this is an automated letter and cant seem to put us through to the person it was sent by although it shows on their system.
Ive heard through a friend of this happening to someone else,so was hoping someone on here could advise.
I'm thinking of writing in but if its computer generated am I opening a can of worms and making things worse for him.
Im not sure what will happen with regards to the back pay, but under the new system your ex will pay 15% of his net wage, its not enough to break the bank, and you will receive £10 of this per week, its not a lot but it amounts to £40 per month.
Your ex is putting pressure on you when its not your fault, tell him its out of your hands and dont be bullied by him, good luck x0
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