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tigerfeet2006 wrote: »

She obviously hasn't had her lightbulb moment yet and as Confused says there is nothing more you can do but be there when the !!!!!! hits the fan and help her as much as possible.

You've started the research, you know what needs to be done so when she comes to you, you can sit her down with a cuppa and help make the call to National Debtline (or who ever she decides on) with her and support her.

Until that moment unfortunatly, no matter how frustrating it is, you will just have to wait. Remember the saying "You can lead a horse to water....."

I thought she had her lightbulb moment last month, when she broke down and admitted everything to me. Perhaps she thinks that as I have paid the outstanding bailiffs and utility bills, and set up the standing orders for the outstanding amounts, the rest will 'disappear'.

tigerfeet2006

Unfortunatly that is where I think you went wrong, by paying things for her. Tough love is the way to go I am afraid. If she comes to you again then I would say sorry I can't afford to help you monetarily but I will help you make contact with the right people, fill in forms etc.

Good luck with it all. We will support you and her all we can when she does finally 'get it'.