As a wedding guest which would you prefer?

missknixon

To me the day is about you 2. Maybe arrange a bus tour at some other point for those who are from out of town. We asked a selection of our guests what they wanted to do (they only have an hour or so) they said just let them chill and freshen up. None of them really know the area - my great uncle did say we could have a stroll up Pendle Hill - so I worried that they may get bored but they seem to fancy having some time to themselves - the photographer also wants some time with us to do some shots

kitschkitty

Our disco end at midnight. I'm only having an evening reception because it's what my family and guests want, it's not something that's high on my list of priorities, but my dad is paying for it. I know some of our older guests will leave before it starts.

I figure you only get one wedding day, so want to enjoy all of it. A bus tour at some other time isn't really a possibility - though if I've missed something please do say, only I can't see any other instance where it would work/make sense. :huh:

ampafc

I went for 'a bit of time to myslef' although that's not exactly what would happen. We have been to a lot of weddings in last year or two, and the cost builds up. So we usually go up to our room in the hotel with a few friends and have a little party prior to the evening starting (we will have smuggled in bottles of vodka, cola, beers, nibbles etc) so that we can get a bit tanked up and not have to spend so much on booze at the bar!

So that's why i wouldn't like being hurried into the 'entertainment' that you have suggested. Also, will the women (and some of the men of course) not be a bit worried about getting their hair/dress in a mess on an open top bus journey?! Oh wait maybe you never said open top bus. Even though, I wouldn't be too impressed with your entertainemnt - being crammed on a bus for an hour and a half!

kitschkitty

Tanked up, hurried, and crammed are not words I want associated with my wedding guests or day! :eek:

ampafc

kitschkitty wrote: »

Tanked up, hurried, and crammed are not words I want associated with my wedding guests or day! :eek:

Ok maybe not tanked up - a bit merry lets say. In my experience at weddings, the bride and groom are happy that everyone has loosened up a bit, and they have more fun on the night.

The hurried and cramped comments were in refernece to your entertainment - cramped on the bus in a very limited space so everyone gets hot and sweaty. Wouldn't be nice (in my opinion)

and hurried - well undoubtedly some people will be a bit late for the bus tour, have to hurry etc etc. Good luck with it though.

shellsuit

If I was an evening guest, I'd love to be asked to go on the bus for a tour, whether I lived near or not and wouldn't have a problem with getting there earlier (than a usual evening guest would).

If I was an all day guest, I've love it too, as people would still be able to chat and catch up whether sitting at a table or sitting on a bus!

Sounds fab to me! x

LE3

Personally I think your idea sounds fab - and if there's a stop for chips that would be even better
You need to let your guests know that is your plan so they can plan appropriately, but it's a far nicer idea for a guest than hanging around for 3-4 hours with nothing to do. TBH if I were invited to any wedding with a huge gap in the middle I would likely leave before the evening do as I would have been there for the important bit (the ceremony) - I'm not one to sit around for hours watching others get "tanked up" ...

missknixon

kitschkitty wrote: »

I figure you only get one wedding day, so want to enjoy all of it. A bus tour at some other time isn't really a possibility - though if I've missed something please do say, only I can't see any other instance where it would work/make sense. :huh:

I didn't mean to confuse :huh: - was actually thinking of the morning / morning after if people are staying over!

Don't listen to me - not sure what I am writing at the moment! I do think it is a lovely idea - would love to do it myself! As a guest who was not staying over it would be nice but not if it meant sacrificing food - I know too many people who get grumpy when hungry! Could you see about maybe doing a shorter tour - lower cost?

It is your day and you should have what you want! If it is what you want you should have it!