How did you develop your 'style'?

bexta

Hi, I've always been a scruff bag, never really known what suits me, and unsure of trying new things. However, I'm getting sick of it now, as I feel like it's time I should be making more 'effort'. I'm 30, with a new baby, and it doesn't feel right that I'm still slobbing around in a Sex Pistols t-shirt that I've had since I was about 16

I'm still about a stone heavier than I used to be, :eek: and have gone from a 10/12 to a 14. I'm not even sure really where to begin - I need clothes that are easily washed (baby puke) and offer easy access for BFing.

How did you develop your 'style' - I'm desperately in need of help!

pink_warrior

Hi, this really depends on what you feel comfortable with and how comfortable you are in your skin?

I would say that for breast feeding either a wrap around top in a stretchy fabric would be ideal. The more obvious choice would be buttons. Also people believe that when they wear loose and baggy fitting clothes that it hides 'problem' areas but this is sooo wrong!! Stand in front of the mirror with your Sex Pistols T on and nip it in at the waist with a belt or knot it in the back, I could almost guarantee you'll see a huge difference.

I developed my own style early on and I dont really believe in following trends. I like what I like and thats that! Although this doesn't mean that you need be stuck in a rut. The key is to know what looks good on you and what doesn't. Experiment a little.
To actually advice you on clothes that suit you is impossible without knowing your body shape.

glowgirl_2

I looked through celeb magazines and made a little list of women whose style I liked and who had a similar shape to me then I researched them online and simply copied outfits;)I then realised that the women I had chosen all had the same stylist so I bought her book and again researched her online, this was a good move cos following her advice gave me the confidence to style my own outfits and I don't copy anymore therefore I have developed my own style:D

poorly_scammo

I have developed mine by wearing what suits my physical shape rather than what is in fashion. My figure is hourglass. I have large breasts, a small waist and wide hips so I go for stuff which is either 50s inspired or is actual vintage as this decade's fashions suit me best and I like them. I'm also very petite so this guides what I wear too: no big prints, few frills, no long line stuff and I try to keep my clothes fitted so they don't swamp me.

If you want to go for the decade approach: the sixties is good for showing legs - you could wear leggings underneath mini dresses if you don't want to show your legs completely.

Belts are good for accentuating waists.

I'd try and look at yourself in the mirror naked if you can bear to (:o) and try to work out your best features and accentuate them.

elfen

I don't have a style, I wear what I like. I'm a bit of an oblong shape, and I've got boobs but no bum and my legs are quite shapely (I have tiny ankles, so strappy sandals are a no-no as they come off) I stick to bootcut jeans and skinnies as I can just about pull them off (more so now I'm losing weight and am at a 14 again - I'll get to a 12) I usually wear hoddies and skinnies a lot in winter as I can wear boots or trainers, and I'm at uni so no one cares. I wear dresses or long jersey tops, usually low cut or I look MASSIVE (I'm an F cup) and if it's a dress I'll wear jeggings and a belt, or with skinnes and a belt. I wear boots, but depending on style depends if they're over or under (where I've been bigger over makes me look in funny proportion)

CupOfChai

Another one here who hasn't really got A Style as such, I just wear whatever I like and think suits me. It gets easier as you go on, as you start to learn what shapes/styles of clothing suit your body shape and can just quickly go straight to them without faffing about trying things that will never look good on you. What is your general shape and size, then maybe people can advise what is likely to suit you?

I think people's "style" kind of naturally appears out of them wearing a mix of things they just like, rather than trying to create a particular style for themselves. You'll feel more comfortable if you do the former too, and feeling good and confident in your clothes always helps you look good in them!

Editing to add that correct underwear is a must so, if you've not already been there, take yourself off to the bra thread pronto!

shandyclover

I'm not sure I have a style, I'm still trying to find it!

I wear what I'm comfortable in. I am not one to freeze or hobble in the name of glamour or fashion. I grew up in a muslim country so I learned to dress quite conservatively. Being a blonde it was very important to show respect for the local culture, as in all the cheap movies imported from Hong Kong the nymphomaniac was always a blonde! I still don't like flashing too much flesh, and since I seem permanently acclimatised to the tropics I wear more than everyone anyways to stay warm!

When breastfeeding I wore alot of what is in fashion now. Legggings/jeggings, Long shirt with a hip belt that buttons in front, I also love wearing scarves - very useful if you have to breast feed while out, oh also ponchos. Once the weather gets colder you can wear a t-shirt or even a polar neck under. I tend to chose very neutral clothes and jazz them up with bright scarves and jewelry, or wear one statement piece i.e. last week I went to a party wearing a short plain grey dress, plain black boots but purple lacey tights!

I expect with a new baby you don't get much time off. If you can get out by yourself, just go into shops and try things on. I had noticed I was getting into a rut with my clothes so started challenging myself to try on what the mannequins in the window were wearing! Of course not all of it suits me but I was suprised some of it did and you just pick and chose what you are comfortable in/can afford without looking like a cookie cutter version of everyone else on the street. To me that is developing my own style.

MoneyQueen

I also don't have a style. I just wear whatever I like in stores or whatever I think would suit me.

Debenhams and other stores provide a personal shopper service. I haven't used them personally but they may help you in finding stuff for your bodyshape and budget

HTH

CupOfChai

PS - don't feel toooo down about your current clothes, your old Sex Pistols t-shirt could well now be a coveted vintage fashion item!

busiscoming2

I have to echo what pink warrior says about not trying to hide under baggy clothes, they really do make you look bigger!

I don't think I have a particular style,but have learnt over the years and through trial and error what suits me. I am pear shaped and wear a lot of fit and flare dresses and A line skirts with a more fitted top/t shirt. I have invested in a couple of pairs of leggings and long dress jumper tops for this winter. I noticed a lot of longline denim type shirts in Primark, maybe they would be ideal for B/F? with some leggings/skinny jeans and boots?

Beenie

I look in magazines for ideas and cut out pictures of clothes that I like the look of. These are not necessarily on 'celebs' as they are are usually painfully thin and their clothes are way too expensive. Sometimes it might just be a girl in an ad, hoovering the carpet (but wearing a lovely tunic over the top of t-shirt and jeans with a chunky necklace to set it off. I copied that and it's an easy outfit to obtain from your own wardrobe collection).