Return to work - possible PND

muminneed

Posting under a different ID just to keep things simple.

I'm currently off on maternity leave and have recently found out I'm pregnant again (not planned by the way but what's done is done). I was dreading going back anyway but even more so now. While pregnant with my first things weren't great in work. Comments were made such as I should have to travel 2 or 3 days a week even though I have a baby as my colleagues had to do the same when their wives had you kids. They're not the greatest bunch of people to work with and not the kind of company you look forward to going into on a Monday morning or any other morning for that matter.

I've spent most of the last few months couped up in the house not wanting to leave the safety of these 4 walls. Thinking or talking about going back to work had me on a real downer so I extended my leave hoping I'd start to feel better in time. Quite often I find myself in tears with the situation. I did visit a GP a few weeks ago but being a new patient he didn't know me and his only suggestion was to seek new employment or take a career break.

I don't want to feel that I'm taking the pi55 and I've never done the dirty on any employer to date but I honestly fear that if I go back my mental health will deteriorate. Someone has suggested that I go on the sick for a couple of months then take early maternity with the next one. I was off sick as little as possible with my first and even dragged myself into work with severe cramping although I finally had to concede and go to the hospital.

My partner is getting more and more worried about me and I've lost track of how many times he's suggested I try and leave the house to get out of this rut. I don't know if this is PND or plain aul despression or maybe something else but I know myself I'm not as happy and cheerful as I used to be and I hate opening up to anyone and I'm even more wary having broken down in front of a GP who didn't seem to care.

Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated. I know this is a recession and I'm lucky to have a job but knowing what is has and can do to me I don't know what the best course of action is.

dave4545454

what name do you normally post under?

katiejones

dave4545454 wrote: »

what name do you normally post under?

why is this relevant ??

Googlewhacker

you can only go sick if you are sick and to do this you need to see your Dr and be signed of.

And yes you are right your employers will be really peed of at you but to be honest if they have cover it won't cost them alot to keep that person. However if you did go back do not expect any favours off them.

dktreesea

Do you need to go back to work for the money? Surely once you have two wee ones under three it would be better for them and you, given your job sounds b. awful, to stay at home for a while and look after them instead? If your partner earns well, you would still get around £50 a week CTC and CB, and if not, you could get around £130 a week CTC and CB.

If you're depressed at the thought of going back to work, maybe you should listen to your depression. It's afflicted itself upon you for a reason. Nobody deserves a job working with horrible people. People who put up with bad working conditions are just, imho, martyring themselves to misery.

caz2703

PND and depression are both serious but you really need to speak to a doctor or midwife if you can. As for returning to work, as said before, if you don't go back you won't do yourself any favours.

I really don't know what else to say but please speak to someone about this before it gets any worse.

SarEl

Or you could start off with solving the problem - which seems to start with another GP! I don't know what is wrong with you either. But I am not a doctor. And I would damned well expect a doctor to do something if a patient broke down and cried in front of them. Sort the employment problem out later - sort the doctor problem out now.

DVardysShadow

dave4545454 wrote: »

what name do you normally post under?

A commensurately stupid answer is beneath us.