Surely she can't actually do this?

tomitma

Do you know something, reading through your posting it struck me straight away, that she wants her husband to stay with you, she is probably thinking because you are friends, you wont charge him much rent, and that will mean all the more money for her, when you said she asked you how you were doing financially, I can imagine everything ticking over in her mind. I wouldnt bother calling her a friend any more. and if she does go ahead I would definitly report her.

JimmyTheWig

Benefits_Bod wrote: »

If a partner ... intends to resume living with the "stay-at-home" claimant...

All this means is that they would have to officially lie.

What a sad situation for them to be considering.

Ancilla

tomitma wrote: »

Do you know something, reading through your posting it struck me straight away, that she wants her husband to stay with you, she is probably thinking because you are friends, you wont charge him much rent, and that will mean all the more money for her, when you said she asked you how you were doing financially, I can imagine everything ticking over in her mind. I wouldnt bother calling her a friend any more. and if she does go ahead I would definitly report her.

Laughing now - I don't think that's where she was going with it! Or at least I hope she wasn't! I might offer though! :eek:

Ancilla

joeblack066 wrote: »

A couple of years ago I was doing a sales job that involved going to peoples houses. I found many young couples living this way, and was appalled. Mum and a couple of kids in the house on full benefits, partner 'lives' at his Mums earning a decent wage. CSA had been told that the Mum was 'too scared' to involve them, and said families had all the trappings of a good lifestyle!
I remember being so proud of my DS2 and his partner and child, who both work full time and have bought a house at 21, all done the legal, ethical and moral way.

Wow. I guess she could really do it then. If it's that common how come we don't all hear more about it? I don't know anyone (yet!) who does this.

Debicj

Unfortunately, with the benefits system the way it is, it is quite possible that they would be much better off financially if they parted.

Before I married my husband, he had his own home and I had mine with my children. When it got to the point where he was staying with me regularly, we declared ourselves 'officially' a couple as I was really worried about getting into trouble. I lost around £700 per month in tax credits, etc. even though my dh was still paying council tax and bills on his empty house until it was sold 6 months later!

So depending on the costs of the husband's new accommodation and the CSA payments and the amount of benefits the woman could claim, they could be onto a financial winner! I don't know how they could be mad enough to carry out this plan though as I can only imagine a whole lot of other problems occurring due to the split.

Agutka

I still believe friends of mine did this. Out of the blue they declared they hadn't been together for six months (??), he got another flat. They were in the process of doing up a delapidated house, so when he moved out, she had the council put in central heating and new windows for her and baby. Whenever I saw them they were together, seemingly because of baby, but a bit too loving for a split up couple. He was always at the house when I called round.
They 'got back together' within a year. Very odd.

Maybe I'm just jealous, our windows are ready to fall out :rotfl:

JimmyTheWig

The whole thing just makes me feel happy that we can afford to stay together as a family.

As much as what is being suggested is illegal, they are certainly "paying" for their debts - if not financially then emotionally.

I feel so sorry for people in such a mess that this becomes worth considering.