Scared to go to the fitting!!

bigmomma051204

Hi all..you are all gonna think i am REALLY odd.. i am TOTALLY dreading my first dress fitting... i have actually put it off for as long as i can!! Dress came into the shop 3 weeks ago and i am finally going this Wednesday... And i am dreading it cos i feel like i am alot fatter than i was in March when i ordered it I never weigh myself so dont know if i really AM fatter or if i am not much different... and i am scared that the ladies in the shop will (dont laugh!) tell me off for putting on weight or laugh at me (not openly i know, but out the back etc lol!)

I joke, but i am actually not looking forward to it at ALL... i didnt much enjoy looking for the dress etc and to be honest, i settled a bit cos i had my Mum there who wasnt very nice about my weight and was making me feel so silly and frumpy and childish that i just went with the best of a bad lot :cool: It was the only one which didnt look HORRIFIC on me and now i am worrying that cos i rushed etc the image in my head of it looking okay on me, is a false memory if that makes sense and that i am going to look horrible. And that they are going to say they have to take it out, alot, and i shall feel dreadful

Its just that everyone on here seems to be so excited about their dress fittings that i feel like there must be something wrong with me I know it is probably just cos i am fatter than most people on here etc... and thats why i know i wont look how a bride should look and i am disappointed with myself because tho i have tried to eat a bit better (cut out "nice" things like choc, crisps, cake etc etc) it isnt enough and i am gonna look awful.

Sorry - i sound so pathetic i know! I just feel like i am just HUGE and i feel like i am gonna walk down the aisle and disappoint my h2b

bubbles0169

aww come on stop beating yourself up please it is supposed to be one of the great experiances in your life, you need to turn it around, your h2b knows your big and wants summat to grab onto god damn you so your gonna squeeze them curves into it and i bet its not as bad as your thinking!
your mum sounds nasty TBH is there no on else who you can take for a look?
im not big but i do have a body issue,every one does, your not alone or stupid!!
i always look pregnant, its not even rolls so it doesnt squish into clothes it just bulges like i said like im preggers, i keep waiting for people to comment about how long ive got left!!
i really need to buck up or else my dress will be really uncomfortable, im flat chested, small bummed with a fat belly!!
anyway please stop worrying or your gonna be sick, you dont know until you go and if they do need to alter it you need to sort it now rather than later xxxx

shellsuit

Aww I'm sorry you feel like that

Did you read a post I made before?

I bought a dress in 2008! Was never going to get into it, so I sold it.

I bought another dress. Didn't like it so sold it.

Bought a brand new dress a couple of weeks ago, tried it on and thought, pah! I'll lose weight by then!

So I've been dieting. Nothing OTT, just replacing crap food for good food and I've been walking 5 miles 3 times a week.

I was actually going to buy another dress because I thought "!!!!!! i only have 8 weeks and I'm never going to get into mine!"

I'd not tried mine on properly you see, I'd only popped it on and got someone to hold the back together (or try to!)

So tonight I thought sod it, stripped off and got my daughter to lace me into it properly ~ and it fits!

OK I could do with losing a stone, but I've got 8 weeks to do that in, which I can easily do.

DOn't give up hope yet! Go and try the dress on ~ I felt sick before thinking mine wouldn't fit and I suppose you'll feel sick too, but don't worry until you actually have something to worry about!

For all you know it will be fine!

Good luck for Wednesday, let us know how you get on xxx

Kazz81

I can understand you being nervous but the longer you put it off the less options you are leaving yourself. When is your wedding? If the dress doesnt fit and you know deep down that it wont fit in time, you need to source another one and if you leave it too late you will be soooo stressed and upset that you will just settle for something because it fits rather than because you really love it.

BTW-I have a good few stone I need to shift to be happy for my wedding in a year and need to get a wiggle on now, after my disastrous shopping trip for my hols at the weekend I need to sort myself out sharpish!

Kazz81

also wanted to add that your h2b is obviously well aware of your figure and its YOU he loves, you could probably walk down the aisle in a bin bag and he wouldnt care as long as you are happy.

talulahbeige_2

Just wanted you to know your not the only one BM, I guess lots of regular posters feel the same way, I certainly do!
When mine was ordered i was inbetween sizes so as my plan was to loose weight we went for the smaller size. When it arrived I went to try it on and it didnt fit properly, the back wouldnt fasten and my hips were very obvious from behind!
My first proper fitting isnt until mid Septemebr and I have been walking most days and try to loose weight but I'm dreading going to be fitted for it!

bubbles0169

how did it go yesterday? xx

BarbC

Chin up chuck - No matter what figure we've got - noone is satisfied - that goes for skinny/athletic/buxom we all want what we havent got. Any bridal shop worth its salt will have seen all shapes and sizes come through the door and its their business to help them ALL feel good - not just the model types - word of mouth would get round if they were b***hes and there would be very little trade after a while so don't worry about them. Also I totally agree with Kazz- youre H2B loves you NOW - not only if you become a size 8 for your wedding.He will be wowwed by you glammed up in your dress, with all your accessories, the atmosphere and the emotion of the day - I can guarantee he will remember how beautiful you looked for the rest of his life. Hope it went Ok x

frannyann

BarbC wrote: »

Chin up chuck - No matter what figure we've got - noone is satisfied - that goes for skinny/athletic/buxom we all want what we havent got.

As a very skinny girl (can I have a round of cheers for putting on 4 pounds this week) the above I agree with strongly!! I look at pictures on here of lovely curvy figures and feel green with envy, Men love 'real' women, with 'real' curves, not skinny sticks, I am lucky that my OH loves me even though I have lost over a stone to illness which I can't regain, but I admit to looking pretty rubbish in my frock. The ladies in the shop were lovely and made me feel amazing, as I hope they did for you too xx

pinkmoo

I have my fitting next week, and being a larger lady I am dreading it. I never weigh myself but feel like I am bigger (not that my clothes are tighter, just think its in my head)
I hated dress shopping, and can't say I love my dress either, so the thought of having to go and put it on scares me..... I have visions of it not going on, and them saying I have gone up a dress size or two..... not even like I can crash diet for a week either as it wont shift enough to stop me panicking!!

So your not alone at all