Wedding photo

maggie111

You sound exactly like my mother.

And by that I mean as crazy as she is. There's sod all you can do about it and you'll struggle to find sympathy for that attitude too.

It's your son's wedding, he loves you and you should be happy to have been there.

MrsC....tobe

My parents separated many years ago, and are warring parents, both have remarried so I now have four parents. Come my big day they will all be in the 'parents of the bride' picture together, whether they want to be or not. It's them that has the problem with each other not me and if I ask for the picture then it will be taken. If one person out of them throws a tantrum then they will be asked to leave and not ruin my day any further. Sounds like the OPs son is of a like mind to me and wanted ALL his parents in one - its very MSE at the end of the day to have one pic with all in instead of having to have two just incase one person throws a wobbly!!!

kazwookie

The OP wrote the other woman, and refered to her husband............I'm confused is the other woman, now with her husband, and in fact he is exhusband?

Either way:-
1. don't look at the photo
2. buy it look at it and remember a wonderful day
3. buy it and get photoshop or what ever and erase her out on your copy, cut and crop or what ever.

tamarto

MrsC....tobe wrote: »

My parents separated many years ago, and are warring parents, both have remarried so I now have four parents. Come my big day they will all be in the 'parents of the bride' picture together, whether they want to be or not. It's them that has the problem with each other not me and if I ask for the picture then it will be taken. If one person out of them throws a tantrum then they will be asked to leave and not ruin my day any further. Sounds like the OPs son is of a like mind to me and wanted ALL his parents in one - its very MSE at the end of the day to have one pic with all in instead of having to have two just incase one person throws a wobbly!!!

We are having two because it would seem wrong having them all in the same pic as they despise each other, and i've never known his mum and dad as a couple, but i totally agree, it is up to each individual, and as a parent their job to suck it up for a few hours!

MrsC....tobe

tamarto wrote: »

We are having two because it would seem wrong having them all in the same pic as they despise each other, and i've never known his mum and dad as a couple, but i totally agree, it is up to each individual, and as a parent their job to suck it up for a few hours!

I can understand - funny thing is, without going into it, it was two particular people that were in the wrong and they are the ones that hold the grudge!! They have all been told already that if they can't make the effort for one day, just one, then not to bother coming! They have got 18 months to buck up their ideas a bit, but I don't see it happening as the last 18 years haven't helped!!!

I always said I would go off out of the country and not tell anyone, just because of the parent thing, but I told OH that I wanted his kids to be there as I know how hurt I was when I wasn't invited to one of my parent's weddings, not even an evening invite, so I couldnt do it to the kids. Logistically, it's a nightmare!!!

tamarto

MrsC....tobe wrote: »

I can understand - funny thing is, without going into it, it was two particular people that were in the wrong and they are the ones that hold the grudge!! They have all been told already that if they can't make the effort for one day, just one, then not to bother coming! They have got 18 months to buck up their ideas a bit, but I don't see it happening as the last 18 years haven't helped!!!

I always said I would go off out of the country and not tell anyone, just because of the parent thing, but I told OH that I wanted his kids to be there as I know how hurt I was when I wasn't invited to one of my parent's weddings, not even an evening invite, so I couldnt do it to the kids. Logistically, it's a nightmare!!!

Familys who'd 'ave 'em!!:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

karen_newcastle

Dobiesmon wrote: »

Hi

Hi
More a question
At my son's wedding the photographer took a photo of me at one end with my son next was the bride then the other woman and then my husband . I thought it was a parents of the groom photo and I would not have stood for it if I had know she was on it , can I phone the photographers and not give my permission for it to be printed:mad:
if not why not

The contract will be between the Bride and Groom and the photographer so you wont really have a say. But you could ask that the couple dont choose it for their album if you feel so strongly about it.

As a photographer I always ask about family circumstances and who should be on each formal shot but sometimes it gets quite hectic and in the heat of the moment mistakes can be made especially with complicated families.

ellay864

At my friends wedding, her mum (who had remarried) refused to have anything to do with my friends dad, though he was all alone. She dragged her new husband to walk in alongside grooms parents so my friends dad was left walking behind by himself. My friend had told her beforehand it was a day when her mum had to put the differences aside but she just steamrollered in knowing nobody would disrupt the service by saying anything. She had even tried to make my friend be given away by her stepdad - they got on fine but my friend understandably insisted her dad did it and her mum was livid. She ended up with no photos with both of her parents in as her mum refused.
I know families are all different but it should be about what bride and grrom want on their day. You should stop sulking and accept their wishes, put aside your differences for the day. I know if/when my sons marry I'll hate the thought of my ex's new wife (the other woman that he left me for) being part of it, but my sons get on with her and if they want us all there (along with my OH) then so be it. I don't need to talk to her but I won't upset his day

frannyann

This reminds me of the time, the 'new' wife of ex 'phoned me to demand I stop calling myself by my married name as she was 'Mrs X now'
I politely told her to foxtrot oscar! My name is the same as my daughters, end of! If/when my daughter gets married she can have who the hell she wants in the 'photo's nowt to do with me!

ellay864

frannyann wrote: »

This reminds me of the time, the 'new' wife of ex 'phoned me to demand I stop calling myself by my married name as she was 'Mrs X now'
I politely told her to foxtrot oscar! My name is the same as my daughters, end of! If/when my daughter gets married she can have who the hell she wants in the 'photo's nowt to do with me!

Well done you! I worked with somebody who's ex husband and new wife all worked on the same site - fortunately in different sections. The 'new' Mrs S hated that the old one kept his name - there were no kids involved and frankly he was such a **** I'd have got shot of the name if it had been me. I think she only did it to wind the new Mrs S up. I've kept my married name but then it's a dead common one anyway and my maiden name was awful lol - not sure if I'd have changed it back if I'd no kids but will definitely change it when I remarry next year even though I prefer my old married name to what the new one will be :rotfl: