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benbenandme

Sorry Chev, posted before I saw your message ...
For a long time I haven't gone out there, but I reached a point where I wanted to, has taken a long time It is nerve racking, not kn owing if they'll turn up / whether they look anything like their picture / whether you'll have anything to talk about etc ... but its also a bit exciting too and its just nice meeting new people. Sometimes people just live talking to the same people day in day out and so its nice to broaden the circle a bit

The tesco thing has been capped slightly, at the beginning it was unlimited and people were claiming hundreds (before I saw the deal so not me). Now you can claim up to £100 per month and each receipt is a maximum of £20 claim. Its still a fab amount of basically free or very cheap shopping each month though :T :T

hypno06

Absolutely good for you getting out there again - and yes it is nerve wracking isn't it! But it is good for the confidence - and also you will have been good for the other guy's confidence too, even if you don't see him again....he has also made a step in getting himself back out there too and to deal with his own "stuff".

And hurrah for being able to text a true mate on the way home

Enjoy the rest of your weekend, and happy mothers day x

benbenandme

Thank you Hypno Its true, I can see a huge leap forward for me, it wasn't that long ago I hated the idea of going on a date, now I enjoy that I am choosing to go and wanting to meet people again

Happy Mothers Day to all of you, especially those of you doing the job on your own, we're bloody marvellous :T :T

benbenandme

Aaaaggghhh ..... just had a text from him saying "really enjoyed last night, must do it again soon" .... what do I reply??? It was a nice evening but I know it wouldn't go anywhere and I really don't want to hurt him as he's clearly hurting enough still already

benbenandme

Have replied ... said I enjoyed it too, didn't feel that initial spark but had a lovely time and am happy to meet again as mates?
Now I feel horrible, he was a nice bloke, just not my type I just feel bad cos he's obviously very new to the dating scene after 10 years in a relationship and I don't want to hurt his confidence Oh why does this dating stuff have to be so complicated?? :cool:

benbenandme

Jeez, he replied instantly saying "yes, mates is good"
Can tell he's not used to dating rules of not replying straight away

benbenandme

Ds just told me his dad is getting married soon :eek:
Not only that, but he hasn't actually told him, ds was in bed and overheard him chatting to his mate downstairs ....

Buffythedebtslayer

Just came to find news of the date, good that he wasn't a nutter etc and I think your text replies where very good, i would have freaked and agonised for ages about what to say.

how do you feel about (sorry about this next bit) !!!! features getting married? poor girl eh? what must she be thinking??

love Buffy xx

Februarycat

Glad to hear the date went well and you had a nice time. I know how you feel its difficult to get back onto the dating scene. I have not been out with anyone for over a year, cant be bothered but must try and make an effort.

benbenandme

Buffy it feels odd tbh ... I'm not upset or bothered, she's more than welcome to him, but there is a bit of me that feels strange about it, almost like that should have been me?? And a bit of me that feels I hate the fact that he's that happy in a relationship when I don't feel he deserves to be. Just gotta keep believing that karma will have its day in August

Ds also told me this afternoon that they dind't do anything today as daddy drank too much beer last night and spent this morning being sick and then the g/f drove ds home and daddy slept the whole way in the car :cool: I sooooo wish I didn't have to send him there

Anyway, we've been out to the forest for a nice walk with mum and dad and then stopped off for afternoon tea at a tea-rooms which was lovely