weddings abroad

bbanwait

Hi,

Me and my OH are looking to get married abroad either sometime next year or early 2008. We havent had a holiday for a couple of years and we have just brought a new house in feb so things are really tight. So we thought we'd like to go on holiday with our friends and get married abroad, and then have a honeymoon all rolled into one. We are looking at north cyprus, as it seems the cheaper option to the carribean, not to mention less commercial and more of our friends are likely to come. It will only be a few of our closet friends. After speaking to a couple of our friends who are in the same boat as, i.e just finished uni want a holiday all seem up for it. Any one got any ideas on how to do this cheaply or where abouts to go.

sascha_2

Hi, we got married in the Caribbean so cant help on Cyprus but would just like to advise you that like us we invited everyone and some even put down a deposit but they didnt come in the end due to splitting up with their G/F etc etc.

So advice to you is to make their own bookings as i was trying to tell people why they couldnt get their money from Thomas cook, not something I needed to be doing while I had enough to do with the wedding.

Also make sure if friends dont come that you wouldnt be too disheartened because people's circumstances change all the time.

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KEZZAE_2

We got married in 2004 in Bad Gastein, Austrian Alps, it was magical. We were married at a resort called Gruner Baum (https://www.grunerbaum.com), approx hours drive from Salzburg. You can get cheap flights via Ryanair from Stansted at around 60 pounds each. This is a ski resort in the winter, and they have lovely big log fires etc in the hotel, it would be lovely to get married next to that with it snowing outside etc.

We paid for the others who came with us, however, I would ask them to pay a proportion of it themselves, as it's a bit pricey but well worth it.

Good luck
Kez

Website for grunerbaum is https://www.hoteldorf.com

maryjane01

If things are really tight why are you planning the wedding abroad? Would you like it if your best friend got married abroad and a large financial commitment were needed for you to attend? If you get married abroad and friends go, if they get married abroad it will be rude for you not to go.

If people are wealthy and can afford weddings aborad that is great for them, but I would expect the person having the wedding to contribute to some of the cost eg, paying to hire a lodge or apartments and only asking for people coming to pay for flights or something. I think it is selfish and incosiderate to put on a wedding which is very expensive for guests to attend. People that are telling you they would love to do it now may have a new house or new baby or some other financial commitment by 2008. That is just my opinion though!

I got married a week and half ago at a registry office, me and my partner are in love and it was an amazing and special day.

seven-day-weekend

maryjane01 wrote:

If things are really tight why are you planning the wedding abroad? Would you like it if your best friend got married abroad and a large financial commitment were needed for you to attend? If you get married abroad and friends go, if they get married abroad it will be rude for you not to go.

If people are wealthy and can afford weddings aborad that is great for them, but I would expect the person having the wedding to contribute to some of the cost eg, paying to hire a lodge or apartments and only asking for people coming to pay for flights or something. I think it is selfish and incosiderate to put on a wedding which is very expensive for guests to attend. People that are telling you they would love to do it now may have a new house or new baby or some other financial commitment by 2008. That is just my opinion though!

I got married a week and half ago at a registry office, me and my partner are in love and it was an amazing and special day.

Congratulations on your marriage and well done for keeping it MS. My husband and I had a small wedding at a registry office 35 years ago and it cost hardly anything.

As regards weddings abroad - my husband's best friend's son is getting married in Oxford this year (to us that is abroad) - and really wants my husband to come and play in the band with his dad as they used to. We have only a small income and although we could afford to go to the UK, we couldn't afford to get to Oxford from the West Midlands where our house is or to stay the night in the four star hotel where they are having the reception.

Anyway....bride's father has paid for the hotel and husband's mate has hired us a car for the whole time we are in the UK, not just then Oxford bit! Thanks people!

If you want people to fork out to go to a wedding that is going to be expensive, then you should be prepared to help them financially, IMHO.

Jamz

maryjane01 wrote:

If things are really tight why are you planning the wedding abroad? Would you like it if your best friend got married abroad and a large financial commitment were needed for you to attend? If you get married abroad and friends go, if they get married abroad it will be rude for you not to go.

If people are wealthy and can afford weddings aborad that is great for them, but I would expect the person having the wedding to contribute to some of the cost eg, paying to hire a lodge or apartments and only asking for people coming to pay for flights or something. I think it is selfish and incosiderate to put on a wedding which is very expensive for guests to attend. People that are telling you they would love to do it now may have a new house or new baby or some other financial commitment by 2008. That is just my opinion though!

I got married a week and half ago at a registry office, me and my partner are in love and it was an amazing and special day.

Why do people have to be so bloody miserable....

My partner and I are getting married abroad and we couldn't give a monkeys about anyone else, this is our day and we will do it how and where we want, and we also arn't doing it cheap as we are going to Mexico to a 5 star hotel.

As for family and friends coming, we made sure that people knew they didn't have to come but they were more than welcome and we now have 12 other people coming along For everyone else who can't make it abroad we are having a party when we get back, can't wait

Becles

Check out exactly where you will be getting married before booking weddings abroad.

I was on honeymoon in Mexico and the hotel organised weddings. They set up fancy chairs and a floral arch on the beach, which looked pretty. However it was bang in the middle of the regular sun loungers, so you had greased up people in swim wear laying either side of your wedding, and children running round with buckets and spades etc., during your service. It wasn't private at all, and I would have hated it!

They did get to eat in a beach front restaurant that was only open evenings, but I have heard of other weddings where you just get a roped off section in the main restaurant so again it's not private.

bbanwait

Thanks for all your replies, we werent trying to be selfish or even expect people with financial problems to come, after discussing holidays with our friends, who we all mutually decided that we would like to take a holiday together, we also decided that this would be an ideal time to come. We have a very close freindship group and like i said that last time we all went on holiday together was a couple of years ago. Are friends were planning to co to cyprus for a week which we were going to join them with anyway and then we thought we would have the wedding then and then spend a extra week there on our honeymoon, we are not rich and try to splash out on a expensive wedding hence we are trying to do it whilst we are on holiday, because i would love to go on holiday with our friends again, but there is no way we could afford a seperate holiday and then a marriage. So we thought it would be cheaper to combine them all.

WelshAndyP

Hi, we looked long and hard at all available options before our marriage in 2002. When all the costs of getting married in the UK were added up, it was a huge bill - most of it spent on feedng all the guests at our reception! In the end we went to Sri Lanka for a couple of weeks and had a fantastic time whilst saving money.

Unfortunately none of our relatives made the trip to be with us - they either couldn't afford it or didn't fancy travelling all that way. We still had the time of our lives and threw a big party for everyone when we returned. So we wore our wedding costumes (made in traditional Sri Lankan style) and had all the usual photos.

All things considered, we thought that it was a shame to exclude people from attending by going abroad, but it was our marriage and we were doing it for ourselves not all our respective (large) families.

bbanwait

Thanks for that sounds great and has really re-assured me by getting married abroad, there was quite a few negative comments on the post. Unfortunatley family will probably not attend if it was here or abroad as i'm marrying out of religion.
But i'm happy and your right its all about us.