Parents battle of house

fraggle777

I have joined this site in hope to get some advice about the problems my mother is suffering with my father.

This is a long story and I will not go in to all the details. The problem is that my brothers married from abroad and their marriages did not work out. The wives of my brothers are related to my father.

My father has mentally abused my mother throughout the 45 years of marriage, and when we were younger he used to beat her too. God knows why she stayed with. Now the way things are at the moment is that my mother who is 63 ill and on attendance allowance and receives pension credit is mentally finished and does not have the will to go on and fight this evil man anymore.

My father is now threatening to put his half of the house on my both of my brothers wives names. My younger brother is divorced, and my older brother is separated from his wife as things were unbearable. Both wives have their own council accommodation and live off benefits.

My mother has always maintained the home and paid for everything, bills, food, maintenance the lot. My father is nothing but an evil tyrant and if he does not get his own way he becomes very threatening. Last year i had enough of his bullying as he went too far threatening my mother so i called the police who gave him a warning. He settled down for a bit then started up again. The police were called on him 3 times as he gets out of control.

Now he wants to hurt my mother and punish her and is saying that he is going to transfer his half of the house on to my brothers wives names. The house still has a mortgage on it, about £26k left, and there is over £200K equity in it. My father is only doing this out of spite and vengeance. I cannot see my mother suffer anymore as it has taken its toll and I would be grateful for any advice or help in what to do. Can my father do this? It would be so much better if he just left, but he is a very stubborn man, and set in his twisted ways, he never wants to reason with anyone. All is wants is money and power and he will not stop at anything to get it.

Maybe I need to take my mother to see a solicitor who can advise her of her rights? I am very worried and would like any help please.

Person_one

I would have thought the house was a marital asset and owned by both of them. Are they joint tenants? When did they buy the house?

I recommend a free half hour with a good solicitor. Maybe she should consider divorce too?

bacard1

I would agree go to a solicitor. Have you not tried talking to her and offering support if she left him?

fraggle777

Thanks for the replies guys, I am supporting her as much as I can and will book an appointment to see a solicitor tomorrow.

I think it would be best if my father left as this is too much and he is such an arrogant and twisted man that my mother does not feel safe with him anymore, and just wants to live the rest of her life in peace.

She has slaved over this man all her married life and I will do everything in my power to get her away from him.

They bought the house about 18-19 years ago, and it is joint names. My mother paid £1700 deposit in those days for the mortgage. She ain't got any proof as it was so long ago.

A few months after buying the house my dad left work and started claiming benefits and has never worked since, and the social have been paying the interest on the mortgage since then.

He never paid my mother any house keep and treated her like a dog all her life, while he was away going back to his country having a good time and he used to go on holiday every year with his group of religious fanatics, while my mum had to stay at home at look after us.

I am quite the opposite of my mum, and my dad hates me to the core because I am not afraid of him and he does not like this and sees me as a threat. Now he wants to put his half of the house or maybe even sell it to get money as he is so greedy and obsessed.

I will see what the solicitor advises, but one thing I know for sure is that after today I will never let my mum be treated that way again, there are 4 brothers and my sister and me, and we are all with her to protect her. Enough is enough and this has to end now