absent dad?

lorny80

hi, i have a son who is 11 and his father has not seen him since he was 3 weeks old. this was NOT my choice, i never stopped him being able to see him, left lines of communication open,invited his family to see ds and never made it impossible for him or his family to see ds. but they chose to stay away, and i never fought it.
i went on to get married, and have 2 more children , and after being married 7 yrs, my dh and i are in the midst of a seperation. ds asked to contact his father back in sept, which i did. and he went on the run, (from me, not the police) and refused to speak to ds.
i have never claimed any money from him. and between my oh and i we have provided ds with as much as possible.
now we are splitting, i am considering going to the csa, to attempt to get support from ds's bio father.
does anyone know where i would stand on this?:beer:

Loopy_Girl

You have the right to make a claim for CS from your first son's father - be prepared though that he will do everything to evade payment as he doesn't appear to want to have a part in your son's life so I would question his keeness to pay maintenance especially as you haven't asked him for any for 11 years.

Also remember that you will need to get CS from your soon to be ex husband although you can do this on a private basis if you are on more speaking terms with him. If not then the CSA can deal with both Dad's for you.

Hope that helps

thefenman

Don't hold your breath with the CSA, in my humble opinion the worst government department ever set up.

My daughter was divorced 5 years ago and she has now had a letter from CSA saying " . . . . I am writing to you to confirm closure of your complaint . . . We consider that all necessary action has been taken to resolve your complaint." She can appeal so long as she does so within 6 months.

In another letter they say that trying to get a lien on his pay fails because he keeps changing job! Why doesn't the Inland Revenue collect by loading his tax coding?

Typical of departments that are target driven, they brag that they solve x% of cases, but that doesn't help my daughter, or me, for that matter, I have to support her out of my pensions otherwise she would be on the edge of poverty.

RedSky

Parental support and financial support are not connected. You can choose he provides financial support, he can choose not to provide parental support.

If his parental support is important to you, and your child, you cannot make him be a parent. If his financial support is important to you, and your child, you can pursue financial support via the CSA.

gratefulforhelp_2

fenman if he is employed they can do a tax trace on him to find out where he is working, him changing jobs is not an excuse for not getting money from him for the child.