Quitting a job and moving - benefit entitlements

psbc

I have created a new account for this.
I have a job currently. It means living at home.
I have a domestic abuse issue at home. Currently covered in a few huge and many small bruises, not to mention the lumps on my head (from beating around the head as he knows it won't bruise there) and the emotional scars from having a gun held to my head (from a few weeks ago).
I need to move.

I cannot move home and keep my job (due to complex reasons which I do not want to go into here).

I also do not want to move to anywhere in this town as he would be on my doorstep at anytime.

If I quit my job and moved to a city would I be entitled to anything? I have no savings.

I have worked since I was 14, have an hnd, never been on benefits before. To be honest the thought of being on benefits make me want to die, but living here any longer is making me want to even more.
I have had to, once again, call sick into work today.

SarEl

Contact your nearest domestic violence helpline immediately - you can google it or phone the police and they will give you the details. They will be able to put you in touch with an entire range of people who will help you get out of there and stay out of there, guide you through the process, give you support, and even help with crisis and longer term housing. Do it now and get out now - while you still can.

psbc

SarEl wrote: »

Contact your nearest domestic violence helpline immediately - you can google it or phone the police and they will give you the details. They will be able to put you in touch with an entire range of people who will help you get out of there and stay out of there, guide you through the process, give you support, and even help with crisis and longer term housing. Do it now and get out now - while you still can.

But I don't want to get him in trouble. I don't believe he means to be like this.
And I have tried calling my local one but it always says it is busy and to call back later.

poet123

Pack a bag and leave, go to a B&B for the night then think through your next move. Womens refuge, friends, family. Think about your safety not his reputation or the consequences for him.

Person_one

psbc wrote: »

But I don't want to get him in trouble. I don't believe he means to be like this.
And I have tried calling my local one but it always says it is busy and to call back later.

He does mean to be like that. Unless he's possessed, nobody is making him hit you. You have to get him into trouble or even if you leave he'll do this to someone else.

Call Women's Aid right now:
http://www.womensaid.org.uk/landing_page.asp?section=000100010008&sectionTitle=If+you+or+a+friend+need+help

Don't put a job ahead of your physical safety. You won't starve.

psbc

poet123 wrote: »

Pack a bag and leave, go to a B&B for the night then think through your next move. Womens refuge, friends, family. Think about your safety not his reputation or the consequences for him.

It will be fine for a week or two. Always is. After an episode he is so nice to me. I just need to know what will happen if I voluntarily quit a job and move somewhere else.
I am in my early 20s and moved home after being at college and the person in question is my dad. This makes it even harder as all the abuse lines are geared towards partners.

Person_one

psbc wrote: »

It will be fine for a week or two. Always is. After an episode he is so nice to me. I just need to know what will happen if I voluntarily quit a job and move somewhere else.
I am in my early 20s and moved home after being at college and the person in question is my dad. This makes it even harder as all the abuse lines are geared towards partners.

Ok, then if you move with the help of Women's Aid and the police I think you'll be a lot more likely to be able to claim benefits. I hope that makes you call them!

ariarnia

unless it's a child abuse issue, they won't prosicute unless you tell them to. they will however help you get away and find housing, help you sort benifits and help you cope with the trauma/difficulties adjusting.

poet123

psbc wrote: »

It will be fine for a week or two. Always is. After an episode he is so nice to me. I just need to know what will happen if I voluntarily quit a job and move somewhere else.
I am in my early 20s and moved home after being at college and the person in question is my dad. This makes it even harder as all the abuse lines are geared towards partners.

That must be awful. Do you live alone with him?

Whoever it is who is doing the abusing, and it is abuse, women's aid will help and support you. My niece works for them and they are really knowledgeable about benefits, re housing etc. By leaving now, and not waiting till next time you are sending him a clear message.

Ring in sick tomorrow, go and see your GP get signed off work for 2 weeks. During that time, get your plan of action sorted, and go, disappear.

You may not be as lucky the next time he loses it.

psbc

Thank you for all the replies. I just really do not want any authorities to get involved. It won't help.
I am going to the GP tomorrow. I am hoping they will note my current injuries (I am not going to tell them how they came about as he has been threatening to get my medical records before). I just want them noted.

Also another major worry is if I do move, what do I say when I apply for jobs when they ask why I left the last job? It is always easier to get a job when you have one currently so I have been applying for some but as my nearest decent sized city is hundreds of miles away and takes 2 days public transport for a return it is very hard to attend interviews etc.

poet123

psbc wrote: »

Thank you for all the replies. I just really do not want any authorities to get involved. It won't help.
I am going to the GP tomorrow. I am hoping they will note my current injuries (I am not going to tell them how they came about as he has been threatening to get my medical records before). I just want them noted.

Also another major worry is if I do move, what do I say when I apply for jobs when they ask why I left the last job? It is always easier to get a job when you have one currently so I have been applying for some but as my nearest decent city is hundreds of miles away and takes 2 days public transport for a return it is very hard to attend interviews etc.

What are you going to say to the GP about the injuries? that you fell:o no one can acess your medical records without your consent, they are protected under the Data Protection Act, so don't worry about that, it is an empty threat designed to beat you down. Be honest with your GP, he will respect your wishes re police etc.

All you need say is that you wanted to change locations, further your skillset, moive closer to family/friends. People are very mobile these days, it is not unusual to move across the country to work.

Are you in a specific field or will any job do to get you away?