Proving Child Maintenance Paid

Soubrette

To be honest - my ex was supposedly in charge of shoes but he didn't bother one year so when my daughter complained of pinched feet we just had her measured and bought shoes ourselves. it was also one of the factors that made me decide I would go down the CSA route.

I know it's annoying but it's not on for a child to damage it's feet because the parents are in a money war In this instance I think your partner should show himself the better parent for the sake of the child.

Sou

DaiJoA

I would gladly get him the shoes and withold the weekly payment but I know it would cause even more trouble - one of the arguments as to why she is saying she doesnt want us buying him shoes is because she wants us to get him a cheap pair - his school shoes are £6 Asda specials - whereas I believe that children should be in correctly fitted, good quality shoes, regardless of how quickly they can sometimes grow out of them. My child has Clarks which I save up the money from my child benefit for when I know he's coming up for a new paid. She insists that she gets him measured regularly and his feet haven't grown, which is a blatant lie as he can hardly get his feet in as I said earlier. As much as I would love to get him some new ones, I just know we'd have to still pay the regular CM amount as otherwise we would just get bombarded with constant abusive phone calls and text messages.

Words fail me as to why some people behave like this!

shell_542

Can you not just buy some shoes and still pay the maintenance on this occasion? It would be for the child's benefit. He needs shoes that fit.

marshmallows

I would first of all call the csa and ask them to confirm in writing there is no open case, sometimes they have inactive cases but they are still open. This is how my husbands ex tried to screw him for more money
Also the bank transfer from your ohs account to the ex's account should be named something like 'maintenance for (childs name) just incase you should ever need to call upon it, especially if there is an inactive case open

DaiJoA

marshmallows wrote: »

I would first of all call the csa and ask them to confirm in writing there is no open case, sometimes they have inactive cases but they are still open. This is how my husbands ex tried to screw him for more money
Also the bank transfer from your ohs account to the ex's account should be named something like 'maintenance for (childs name) just incase you should ever need to call upon it, especially if there is an inactive case open

It is labelled like that, because until she moved she got it cash in hand as my partner saw his little boy on a Tuesday and so paid it then - however when she moved the Tuesday visit had to stop so we requested her bank details and now do everything online, with references. I think what holds her back from doing it fully through the CSA is that her partner had £2000 removed from his bank account by the CSA by mistake, and if the same happened to my partner he wouldn't be able to pay the mortgage on his house which is still in joint names while the endless divorce is going on. No doubt once that particular battle is over, though, this one will start.

Loopy_Girl

shell_542 wrote: »

Can you not just buy some shoes and still pay the maintenance on this occasion? It would be for the child's benefit. He needs shoes that fit.

If I could thank you more than once for this comment then I would.

Agree completely with you. There's no need for Clarks shoes to be bought for him (in spite of the thoughts of the OP), just a pair of well fitting shoes - even if it is an 'Asda £6 special'. Got to be better than what he is wearing surely;)