How much to spend on gift?

snugglepet20

OH's cousin is getting married and they have asked for either gift vouchers or cash. How much is an appropriate amount to spend without seeming stingy or extravagant? It is difficult because they will know exactly how much I have given and I don't want to buy a gift in case they don't like it. Any help would be much appreciated.

faerie_girl

I think up to about £40 is reasonable
xx

onebusybee

When my friend got married last year they also requested money / vouchers. Money was tight for me at the time so I managed a £30 debenhams voucher (which I had to save up for :eek:) and bought a small token wedding gift from a card shop for about £5.

They loved the little gift even though it was so simple as everyone else had only given vouchers.

[Deleted User]

Depends on your own income etc, too. I'd say for your partner's cousin's wedding then £10-£20 is very reasonable if you're on a lowish income, a little bit more otherwise. I wouldn't expect more from my cousin & her/his partner.

shellsuit

I'd say £20-£30 should be fine, obviously you can give more if you want to/can afford it.

hayleythedaisy

£20 to £40 would be great, depending on your circumstances, and how much you would normally have spent on a gift.

Sarah-J

We have asked for money for our gifts as we're planning on heading off travelling for a while afterwards, so the last thing we need is more stuff! It's becoming more common now anyway, as most people have lived together for a while and already have most things they need. I know exactly what you mean about not wanting to seem stingy - I've been in a similar situation a number of times! I don't know how close you are to the couple - could you suggest to them that people are given the option of an anonymous donation? We are going to have a box that people can post cards and gifts into (which the venue are supplying), plus they can also hand the dosh over to the best man or madame of honour (her choice of name - she didn't like matron!). That way they can keep it separate from the card if they want to, and donate as little or as much as they want to and can afford without us knowing exactly how much is from whom.

Failing that, I'd agree on the £20-40 mark, always depending on your circumstances. More than that would be nice if you can afford it and they are paying for more, e.g. any accomodation, as then you'd be helping to contribute towards the costs. We got an excellent deal on exclusive use of our venue which included the rooms, so we're kind of hoping for some higher gifts to help us out with that, but honestly only from the folk who can afford it - quite a few of our friends just can't, hence the way we've done it.

Hope that all makes sense!