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AnxiousMum

Hey JustJulies.....didn't want to read and run.....what a wuck fit your ex is. I think that there are a few of us on here who have ex's who are evading their csa/child maintenance responsibilities - and when a 'man' (I say man....but mean weenie) does that, it's hard to fathom how they can do that to their children. I know mine would give any amount directly to his child(ren) - only responsible for maintenance to one child now - but the thing that irks him is that he has to send it via me. Hmmm, funny how he didn't have a problem when we first got married that he was a lazy layabout yob while I went and worked, and worked shift work when the little ones were young so that he could set up his new business venture - don't know whether it was landscaping or sofa surfing.....lol

Just a thought - was this business ever in your ex's name? Surely if it was, and he 'sold' it to his wife (dozy b*tch who is supporting depriving a child) there was an 'income' derived from that - was it declared (if this is what happened)?

I know there are some great NRP's out there - those who support their child, who spend time with their child....unfortunately it's the weasels like your ex who seem to 'tie the CSA up in knots' that should have their bits cut off to avoid being able to mess a child around ever again.

Keep coming back here - there is alot of support from others experiencing the same thing.

DUTR

justjulies wrote: »

just heard back from csa back to square one .On paper everything is hers .I hope she leaves him and takes it all.what can i do next i dont know.smile and carry on :mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad:

The answer is simple, just ask him if he is willing to contribute :j
Even if he gave you £20 a week, it is better than the £0 per week you are currently getting surely?

justjulies

he would never do anything like that,he would see it as less for him. he has never shown any interest in his sonand iam sure never will

justjulies

its always the supportive nrp that get screwed.they are the ones the csa want less work.its about time they did somthing about the a**holes like my sons so called father

AnxiousMum

Well JustJulies - if it's any consolation - my two eldest boys are now 21 and 18 - and are seeing their father exactly for what he is. One asked for a screen shot of the accounting of his arrears......asked why - and he put it on his facebook page. Yes, his father's partner, step son, their grandparents, cousins, aunts and uncles as well as family friends will be able to see it. He did this as he has just learnt that his dad is sending his step son on a rather expensive school trip from Canada down to California - and the step son had announced on his own facebook site how generous his step dad was.......lol - someone should've told my ex a hooker would be cheaper!

justjulies

GOOD FOR HIM its very sad children have to know all this,MEN LIKE HIM HAVE NO SHAME as my ex has more children with his new wife that he thinks are his (little dose he know} i will be in the same boat .They want for nothing .except love the only person he loves is himself.

speedster

Soubrette wrote: »

I'm afraid this is precisely their justification - they are screwing over their ex and the system. (I have yet to come across an NRP who although not paying maintenance is actually putting the equivalent money by for their child)

Sou

you have now then. all the time my ex was stewing on a fiver a week, i was, (and still am) saving at least £100 per month for my daughter, as i know in a few years when driving lessons, uni fees or a house deposit come into the equation, that her mother wont be giving her a penny.

the woman cant budget for toffee and never has anything put aside for the future. that explains why she pesters me for more when her car breaks down or her BF cant be arzed to go to work for a few months.

AnxiousMum

speedster wrote: »

you have now then. all the time my ex was stewing on a fiver a week, i was, (and still am) saving at least £100 per month for my daughter, as i know in a few years when driving lessons, uni fees or a house deposit come into the equation, that her mother wont be giving her a penny.

the woman cant budget for toffee and never has anything put aside for the future. that explains why she pesters me for more when her car breaks down or her BF cant be arzed to go to work for a few months.

I too would be able to put away a couple of hundred pounds per month for my eldest two's future Speedster - but oh, I have to feed, clothe and house them as well each month - and it costs a tad more than a fiver a week!

However, when things like driving lessons, uni etc. pop up, or school trips that are residential etc., I have always had the money for those through the child support and my own contributions.

justjulies

How do manage to save £100. per month.your kids are lucky,my sons father wouldnt give him a penny.Thats why i have to try to get something off this lowlife so my son can have the things you say you want for your kids, how you can aford it ,what with being assessed at only £5 maintenace only you know

speedster

AnxiousMum wrote: »

I too would be able to put away a couple of hundred pounds per month for my eldest two's future Speedster - but oh, I have to feed, clothe and house them as well each month - and it costs a tad more than a fiver a week!

However, when things like driving lessons, uni etc. pop up, or school trips that are residential etc., I have always had the money for those through the child support and my own contributions.

as you know my case by now, you should remember that the reason my ex got stuck with a fiver a week is cos she got greedy, lied and acted fraudulently to increase her assessment and used contact as a weapon.

i just refused to roll over and play dead to those fascists and her. i played the system in EXACTLY the way she did, fairs fair. equal rights for "wimmin" and all that eh?? whats good for the goose etc, etc, etc.

she played the game and lost. pure and simple. she has now realised this, which is why she is now a lot better off for it.

oh, and i still have my SO set up into my daughters savings account where that woman cant touch it.