Pregnancy's Best Kept Secrets

fannyadams

LOL at all previous posts - and nodding my head and pmsl (yes my pelvic floor is shot away)
stuff I found out when PG with DS#2

That you have to FIGHT the consultant for a vaginal birth after your first c-section.
I done it, even though the b*strd told me that I HAD to have one coz my second would be well over 10lb, and my womb would 'burst' if i tried to deliver 'naturally' - I had my brilliant midwife page him at 4.30am to tell him "I WIN" (AND she did from the phone opposite the room I delivered in). delivered DS#2 at just over 9lbs, and 12 hour labour from first twinge to first cry.
If you have a c-section then YOU DO NOT HAVE TO HAVE ANOTHER ONE if your plumbing is OK.
C-section is NOT the easy way out - especially if you have a toddler to look after as well as a baby.
if you are still having baby blues after 2 weeks tell your GP/midwife/health visitor. it is not a sign of weakness you may have PND and there is treatment that does not involve them taking your baby away. I WISH someone had told me this BEFORE I got too bad...
better now, still have relapses.
DEFINATELY not having any more babies - i might get a girl. :rotfl:
that when you stop breast feeding YOU WILL GET preggy almost immediately - ask my boss! It's like when you come off the pill - your body goes into hyper fertile mode.

skylight

Melissa22_Mum wrote:

Not being able to sleep anyway because your frightened that the baby might not be breathing..

Oh crumbs - and I though that was just me! People I mentioned that too would shoot me down in flames and tell me to stop being silly.

You really do spend the first few nights not sleeping - and its not because of the noise, its becuase you wake up every 15mins to prod the baby.

Melissa22_Mum

charlotte664 wrote:

Oh crumbs - and I though that was just me! People I mentioned that too would shoot me down in flames and tell me to stop being silly.

You really do spend the first few nights not sleeping - and its not because of the noise, its becuase you wake up every 15mins to prod the baby.

AND when your breastfeeding people watching every mouthful of food that goes in your mouth incase it's "bad for the baby"

Jay-Jay_4

... and that people who have babies in hospital think the home birth crew are brave when the people who have babies at home think the hospital birth crew are the brave ones!

iwanttosave_2

Melissa22_Mum wrote:

Not being able to sleep anyway because your frightened that the baby might not be breathing..

I had that as well

With DS2, when he was first born he used to do this gasping sound when he was hungry. My mum and aunt came round when he was about 12 hours old, I hadnt had any sleep because I was hyped up, very teary for the littlest reasons.

now they were both doing his nappy and he started making the noise, they started screaming that he wasnt breathing ect ect. I was going off my rocker, I knew he was fine and that was just a noise but my god that stuck with me for a while after.

misty

bluenose1 wrote:

2. As it was an operation they wouldn't let me wear make -up. Shallow I know.

lol

I wanted a home birth and def no epidural - candles - blah blah - because of various complications - I ended up telling the anaethetistist to hurry up when he was putting the epidural in. It ran through and they put another drip of stuff in - I was waffling on about how this one wasn't as good as the first lot - and could the midwife check it was the right stuff and strong enough until she pointed out - it was actually the pain that was getting worse - DOH. I ended up having an emergency c - section - the last thing I wanted but had laboured for 16hrs after 3 inductions - but being told I'd have to remove my nail varnish - nearly made me cry!!

Not realising your "birth plan" was likely to be submitted as best worst of fiction for the Booker prize.

gingin_2

bluenose1 wrote:

Had 3 C Sections. No-one ever warned me of

1. the terrible pain of the injection into my spine (most people don't seem to experience this but I was in agony.)
2. As it was an operation they wouldn't let me wear make -up. Shallow I know.
3. How bright and frightening the operating theatre was.
4. The pulling of the stitches as you tried to walk.
5. Trying to move or turn over in bed.
6. Do not under any circumstances laugh, cough or sneeze after a c -section. I got the giggles with my sister in the hospital one day and was in agony.
7. Pulling off the bandage over your scar. Sticks to the skin.
8. Trying to stand up after a bath.
9 Wanting to go home.

Apart from that it was great. Still had 3 kids anyway.

Really?

My first emergency c/s was a nightmare but my second was necessary but planned and went so smoothly it was amazing and a really special experience. I was in agony the first time round but the second time I was absolutely fine. I would love to have baby no.3 and assume it would be via c/s and hope it will be like no.2. (apart from the weeing!)

I went home after 48 hours with no. 2 so it was fab.

zombiecazz

alice's_mum wrote:

This made me and OH laugh, I sat in the bath at about 8 months and let the water run out so that I could stand up safely, had slipped slightly at some point and thought empty bath with child safety mat in better option for getting out. Found I couldn't move AND that water was coming from somewhere!!! When OH came in he laughed like mad as I had created a dam and all the bath was full of water behind me and none of it could get past!!!!!!! I was not impressed I can tell you.. But it still makes us laugh now, especially as now I can sit in the bath with DD next to me and have enough room, I must have been HUGE

Thank you thank you. That has just made me howl with laughter.
:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

zombiecazz

They don't tell you That some of those people who are there to help, will make you See red :mad: and it's only because you're a lady and in some kind of compromising situation that you don't stand up and punch them.

Sitting naked in a nice warm bath, after 12 hours labour that finally produced DD (second child). My delightful midwife told me I hadn't been trying hard enough!!!! Good job I was tired and lying naked in a bath!!!

The delightful nurse who stabbed my thigh with a vitimin K injection without giving me warning. Gee Whizz I just gave birth I'm not dead!!! There is still feeling in those there thighs.

The discussion that my Doctor had with the midwife on whether she (the DR) would be able to break my waters as I was only 1cm dilated. It was one of the conversations were you just feel like you're in save hands...NOT!!!!

ailuro2

anyone mention the 'show' yet?

it's the mucus plug that comes away when you're in labour.

The midwife checks how far dilated you are (this is at home to make sure you're actually in labour and not pretending, lol!!) then she says you might see a bit of a show when you wipe yourself after you go for a wee.

Yuk!! it's a big slimey bogie looking thing, and you've to look at it while still getting over the shock of just how far the midwife has to go to check how far dilated you are!
No wonder they hand you a precious little baby at the end of all this.Doesn't matter if you don't love it straight away ( I was a bit shocked,I think) you still feel very highly protective of it.:D