Stag Do Problem

deano23285

got a problem with my Best Man aka my Brother who wants to organise my stag do for next year, he's insisting we all (20 of us) to Newcastle to do paintballing and football, now i love paintballing but can't stand playing football (don't mind watching it) and would rather do quad biking or karting, my BM is saying that as everyone else is up for football then i have to do it!!

my OH has had a rant at him saying its my stag do therefore everyone should do what i want to do,

not sure whether i should tell him to naff off and organise it myself

what do you all think?/

spongebabs

Oh deano, what's wrong with some people eh!! It's your do, you decide what you want and where, and then if people want to come great, if not you're still doing what you want! I've had to cancel my hen party because of people sticking their beak in and kicking off about various stuff, so I've cancelled the whole thing and I'm now going to Manchester for a night with my best friend and telling everyone else what we're doing and they can join us if they want to!

bacard1

Arranging my stag do was a nightmare, some said they could not afford alot, some of my family do not speak each other etc. Just do what you want to and the other will either come or not. Just enjoy your do

mimosaurus

i agree with the others - it's your do, you should have some say in it. you like the first part of his idea so perhaps he could organise the paintballing and leave you to sort the rest of the day for yourself? might make him feel that he's still involved, but keep him in check!

shellsuit

Who do people think they are?

Watch out, they may want to change the menu for the wedding day too!

It's your stag do, so do something YOU want to do. If it wasn't for you, there wouldn't be a stag do, so tell 'em all to bog off!

fly_dragon_fly

at my partners best mans stag do he ended up going out and being made to drink horrible types of drinks.

he ended up saying thats enough where they then took the mickey out of him for being a "wimp " and not manly enough and it ended up with 6 of his long time mates not coming to his wedding.

do what you want!

no one else! xx

floss2

Just quietly get on with arranging a stag-do that you want, and let them go off on their football weekend without you.

If its any help, my OH isn't having a stag-do at all.

Then again I am making up for it by having 3 hen do's

deano23285

thanx for the replies folks, he's sticking by his guns and says i should sit out if i don't want to play?!?

my reply was: it won't be a stag do as the stag wouldn't be going!!!

Abbafan1972

I agree with the other posters, do what you want to do!

Likewise if it was my hen night, I would be choosing what to do.

tbourner

I was extremely stubborn on mine, I don't drink much and don't enjoy clubbing etc. so at about 11pm I told everyone I was leaving and they all whinged and moaned and said I was boring, but I just left anyway. Nobody has ever mentioned it since, and everyone was still fine at the wedding and said they enjoyed it etc.

I don't know your brother but I'd be inclined to say I'm doing paintball and go-karting, and tell everyone else that is what the stag do is and your "friend"s party is just another thing if people want to do both it's up to them. If he's still sticking to it then just book another day and ask everyone if they're coming. People will go to your stag do rather than his 'party'.

Stephb1986_2

deano23285 wrote: »

thanx for the replies folks, he's sticking by his guns and says i should sit out if i don't want to play?!?

my reply was: it won't be a stag do as the stag wouldn't be going!!!

Yeah!!! Dead right! I would just organise it myself and say if your there great if not your loss

Steph xx