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Beginning to understand

Hi everyone,
I've just got to share a quick story with you-
I entered into my DMP 6 months ago with just over 50K in unsecured personal debt:eek:
Last week, I went to Prague with my Mom who is visiting me from Canada (before you all say anything-I used AIRMILES to pay for trip I got from my Tescos clubcard;) ) and had a lovely time....
Except when I watched my Mom shop and spend money like it was the end of the world-don't get me wrong, I'm not jealous-but my Mom was declared bankrupt 10 years ago and has carefully built her credit rating back up again-bought a house, has a good job etc. and I KNOW it's going to be the same again-she has not learned a single thing! She buys over generous gifts for people she needn't, (like her neighbour she's know for 2 months?!) losing expensive items because she's not cautious (BRAND new digital camera-her 3 in 3 years!?) and admitting to me that she won't be able to pay her bills when she gets back home. Frankly, it scares me.
I know I am a different person now and even when I'm out of debt, I will NEVER be the way I was beofre with money-I know where every single penny goes and have completely changed my ways.
But, finally, I am beginning to understand WHY I had this 'I must have it now-and beggar the money' attitude before. I nearly lost my marriage over my lies and deceit and I'm finsding being around her very difficult-I just want to shake her and tell her to STOP SPENDING!
Anyone else have a similar experience?
Bunny
Empty pockets never held anyone back, only empty heads and empty hearts can do that -Peale
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