Is it Euphoria or a calmness of a new reality

masueuk

Just about 2 weeks ago the lightbulb not only came on, it blinded me for about a week and made me cry enough to solve the current water shortage. Then I went away, spoke to a sensible relative who agreed with me that as we had sc"£*ed up there were few options and that selling the house to pay off mortgage and debts (total just shy of £140,000) for what might be only £145,000 will give us the chance to restart our lives elsewhere with a clean sheet. So I am now the proud owner of a great project plan, with everything laid out. We are not only selling up our house but also mothballing our business to restart it elsewhere. And since the plans all got put in print, with all !!!!less fire fighting extinguised and a stoical determination to get on with it,...... life has become much calmer :j We both feel much better and enthusiastic about things. We have potentially found a fantastic house to rent, much much nicer than current home and much much cheaper. If we both end up working in Tesco or Asda we will still be able to pay the bills :j :T So my question is..... are we really calm or is it misplaced euphoria ? My friends and the sensible relative all feel it is the latter.

Which ever it is , its so much better than a week ago when I say crying in an airport before travelling to see my elderly father, luckily he doesnt know who I am any more so I cant really disappoint him :rotfl:

maverick007

masueuk - Does it matter? Well done on sitting down and sorting everything out. That is a major major step that a lot of people struggle to come to terms with. So perhaps the answer is both.

masueuk

Thanks for your kind words... it isnt what either of us would have planned and it might not end up totally fantastic but this apparent disaster might just give us the right push to make more of our lives than we would ever have done before.... not bad for an old wifie in her late 40's :j :rotfl:

Broken_hearted

I think it's relief, before you were too scared to look at the mess. Now you've not only looked at it, you have come up with a plan and can move on. Good luck I hope it all goes well for you.

Emmzi

It's wonderful when you make a decision

Let us know how you are progressing. We want to know when you are debt free!

FrugalJo

Masueuk
I think it is both of those feelings/emotions, part of the lightbulb experience, after the initial panic and sleepless nights, you see there is a way out, positive thinking kicks in so it becomes a challenge, in a strange sort of way exciting ?
Congratulations in sorting it all out, hope your move goes well
40 is not old lol !
Jo

Dr.Shoe_2

I really wish I was in your position! Selling up and moving is probably the dream option- especially if you're going somewhere nice.

Many people do exactly that, not because they're neccesarily in debt but they work hard for X number of years and then sell up and shed all those encumbrances that were pulling them down. Some people take themselves off back-packing for a year and some move to a new area and take an easy job just so they can tick over- it's almost like retirement!

My brother did just that as he was single and had few responsibilities and went to live in Cyprus. Now he has a wife and a son, a good little business he thoroughly enjoys, a lovely home and spends much of the summer on the beach!