Bridesmaids boiling - some perspective please!

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Hi everyone

I'm one of the bridesmaids!

It's up to me and another (Z) to organise the hen party. We'd sorted what we wanted to do and the budget.

Z then got really busy at work and 'disappeared' for two weeks. Didn't answer phone calls or emails and when I did see her and asked if we could meet up she said she was too busy and would let me know - I know she's absolutly manic!

I managed to find a great deal c*cktail class, half the price of others, but had to book it the next day. After I got through to Z and she said she'd come over but she had a friend round and would come over later. Later she said she couldn't come round as it was too late so we chatted on the phone, I apologised for being a control freak (I am) and she apologised for being so busy. I got the go ahead to book the class.

I'm annoyed that she was too busy to speak or see me but ok to see a friend. She's annoyed that I've booked stuff and feels left out.

How is the best way to deal with this?

I'm tempted to say that I'm happy to wait and book everything together and let her organise the travel and the clubs ect as long as she makes an effort to contact me and be more available.

The closer it gets to August the more expensive things get so I want to book it all quickly.

She's a good friend and I don't want to fall out - do you think we're both over-reacting?

hayleythedaisy

I think you've got to have an honest and frank talk. How would you both feel if your other friends hen do was rubbish because you were too afraid to book and she was too busy. Tell her you appreciate she is very busy so perhaps if she gives you her ideas you can work on that, just explain that you are fortunate enough to have the time and love organising so are more than happy to step up to make sure the day is wonderful.
This should either give her a kick up the bum or she'll realise what your getting at and give you the go ahead to power on through with it.
HTH and you get it sorted.

l*g*d

Maybe you just need some time just you and her, without any wedding/hen do stuff. I'm sure you'll get it sorted

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Thanks for your responses.

I've emailed her to say I'm sorry for booking the class without consulting her and could we meet up. I guess I'll have to see if she gets back to me.

I'm trying to calm down...but how to do without reverting to chocolate!?!

Alyssa_C_2

Alcohol :rotfl:
Seriously, she should be fine, I think you've been very patient. All you're trying to do is make it right for your friends Hen Do

hayleythedaisy

Try to bear in mind that different people have different priorities. And you don't know what crisis her other friend had. Take it easy on her and yourself and just remember this is a happy day!