Wedding day Photos- is their an etiquette involved ?

Cat72

Hi
I hope this makes sense. Is there some kind of etiqette to who is included in the wedding photos ? Although things seem to be very much anything goes nowadays -some things like seating, top table, invites etc stil have the do's and donts of not insulting family members.
So is there certain members and poses that should really be done- like groom and family etc ?

The photographer asked what certain photos we wanted done . My answer would just be me and hubby lol but I suppose their are traditional poses that are usual done- or are there ?

Apricot

Traditionally you would have a few group photos with everyone and then bride and groom and respective families, bride and groom with bridesmaids and best men. Usually the photographer would take the lead on the day and organise people.

Sammy85_2

We're having the majority of photos done on our own and then a few informal family group shots ( i dont want the sat in rows, school type photos)

- B&G with B's parents
- above with siblings
- B&G with G's parents
- above with siblings
- B&G, Bridesmaids & BM
- B&G with both sets of parents
- B&G with grandparents
- B&G with both families
- B&G with All guests

I think thats about it for now, maybe some with my OH's cousins since the whole rabble are coming. We'll see if the list grows over the next 14 months.

aliasojo

Don't have any taken of you kissing. (It's not as easy to cut him out at a later date.) :rotfl:

Sorry.

Agree with sammy btw. You need some group family photos.

bigmomma051204

We are having as few "posed" group shots as possible!! A few of us together in the grounds (but we are trying to limit this time to about 30mins if possible - in part cos my h2b is partially disabled and wouldn't be able to stand around for 2 hours like some photographers suggested - eeeek!!) then groups hopefully "formal" shots limited to:
Us with the Best men (yes, plural lol!) & bridesmaid
Us with groom parents
Us with brides parents
Us with groom grandparent
us with bride grandparents
Us with our little boy

We have then asked that photographer take shots when people are having the welcome drinks for an hour or so.... we want pics of everyone... just not "posed" So we are having a very reportage set up - ie that pic of Uncle sneaking out by the back door for a crafty ciggy... or Children getting up to mischief under the table etc etc.

We aren't having the few "posed" shots because they are expected though... we would simply like pics of us with our CLOSE family/family that might not be around for ever (grandparents etc) after all, we don't ONLY want to look at our photos in 25years time and see JUST us.... otherwise we would just s0d off abroad and grab some passers by etc etc with no family there at all. :cool:

Cat72

Thanks for the replys. Its just I have no family so all the B&G with brides family would not apply.I would have loved a photo with my mum if she had been here.
Also his father is dead and he is not close to his mum anymore .

Im not sure then what to do about these things -he is having photos with his best man before the ceremony.

His family have been horrendous demand all sorts of things and I feel they will be the same with the photos. So its a fine line between keeping whats right and not having to pose for photos I dont want.
I dont think they want a family photo of me , the groom and them anyway.
The photographer says it is up to us, he normally just takes one fun group photo and the rest is up to the couple.
We have 45mins for photos so its not too long .

Claire_Bear

If you think that his family are going to be demanding about photos then take a few of the ones that they want to keep them quiet, but just don't order the prints of them afterwards. If they want a copy then they can buy it themself At the end of the day it's up to you what you want, it's your and your OHs wedding, if you only want pics of the two of you then I don't see a problem with it You could always just experiment with group shots and photos with anyone else, like I said if they don't turn out like you wanted then you don't have to order them but I suppose it's always nice to have that option, you might be surprised

bigmomma051204

Cat72 wrote: »

Thanks for the replys. Its just I have no family so all the B&G with brides family would not apply.I would have loved a photo with my mum if she had been here.
Also his father is dead and he is not close to his mum anymore .

Im not sure then what to do about these things -he is having photos with his best man before the ceremony.

His family have been horrendous demand all sorts of things and I feel they will be the same with the photos. So its a fine line between keeping whats right and not having to pose for photos I dont want.
I dont think they want a family photo of me , the groom and them anyway.
The photographer says it is up to us, he normally just takes one fun group photo and the rest is up to the couple.
We have 45mins for photos so its not too long .

I say have ONE big group one to keep the lot of them happy then have the ones YOU want to have to look back on in the future.. anyone who is important to you, have photos taken with them... maybe good friends.. doesn't have to be staged photos of your, groomy and so and so! MAybe nice pic of you with a best friend? At the end of the day, you are paying for the photos.... so you choose who you will want to see pics of in 25yrs! So, if you and hubby's fave person is your dog, Rover, then have some lovely pics taken of you, hubby and Rover!!!!!!!! :j