What age did your kid's 'clothing problems' start?

aliasojo

I've just spent an afternoon from Hell with my 10 year old daughter.

She's grown out of everything and needed kitted out with everyday clothes.

I took her into town on the understanding that she was getting casual clothes...jeans/leggings/tops/cardis etc and no fancy disco or dressy stuff. She thinks she's older than she is sometimes and wants anything that 'sparkles' or 'floats'. Unfortunately she's not got the maturity or good taste to realise that less can be more and wearing disco stuff out shopping on a Saturday afternoon just isn't a good look. That point agreed, we set out for a girly shopping trip.

I don't usually shop in Primark as rule simply because I feel the quality isn't as good as in other shops, but she has friends who shop there and wanted to go have a look. She found a couple of t-shirts that were ok and only a couple of quid each so no big deal if they fell apart in the wash. I was practising 'compromise' at this point. I refused the leggings she wanted because they were very poorly made and the seam ran diagonally on one leg instead of straight and the waterfall cardi she wanted would have lasted one wash before disintegrating, so that got a 'no' too. This was the point her face started falling. However I did stand in a huge queue for the second time simply because she found a red handbag she liked so as far as I was concerned she wasn't doing too badly.

Then came the shoe shop. She wanted Sketchers, a Mary Jane type with sparkles. I wasn't delighted but couldn't in all honesty come up with a valid reason why, so I let her try them on. They clearly didn't fit properly so she wasn't allowed them. Cue mood of the century and attitude by the bucketload. She was acting like your typical spoilt brat (and she has never been spoilt so I was suprised to say the least). Needless to say the shopping trip got cut short, we drove home and the journey passed with me telling her in no uncertain terms how disgusting her behaviour was and that she could whistle for anything else.

I'm really angry with her and she's now in her room crying because we've fallen out. She's apologised but this isn't the first time her attitude has got her into trouble.

It crossed my mind at this point that she's only 10. I expected the hassle to start when she reached teenage years.

Do any of you have this kind of thing with your child at this age?

painted

I must say I never had any problem buying my two children clothes....but then they are both boys. I can still even now buy clothes they both like and ones 27 and one 21!

minimoneysaver

I think that you are there already. I've seen a lot of that behaviour in my year 4 class already! I don't think that many of them are, "spoilt" children either. I think it is just a child trying to show their independence. There is much more choice available to children now and not forgetting the influence of the media and films like Hannah Montana and HSM. Go with the flow and enjoy shopping trips with your daughter while you still can. Does it matter if she dresses slightly different? Fashion items that can be purchased in shops like Primark and George at ASDA are reasonably priced and can be enjoyed by pre teens.

jennihen

DD2 is just starting to be 'aware' of what she is wearing but its my say at the end of the day!! She's 11. DS is 18 and only just picking his own clothes!!
DD1 is a nightmare - she's like a combo of Trinny and Suzanne. She picks up armfuls of clothes for herself but if I look at anything she tells me it makes me look fat, old, cheap . . . .

aliasojo

minimoneysaver wrote: »

Does it matter if she dresses slightly different? Fashion items that can be purchased in shops like Primark and George at ASDA are reasonably priced and can be enjoyed by pre teens.

Ah no, with respect I think you're missing the point a wee bit. There's a difference between 'dressing differently' and wanting to buy things that simply don't fit or are badly made just because you want them, then sulking like a brat because you can't have them and your friends do.

Lotus-eater

Erm my DD is 6 and already knows her own mind about clothes, neither of us is too bothered about what we wear, not sure where she got it from.
But when it's not school uniform, she wears pretty much what she wants, she gets loads of 2nd hand clothes from people and loves sorting them out and trying them on. So she's not a clothes snob.
I wouldn't hesitate buying her clothes in Primark, (I even buy clothes there myself ) as she wouldn't wear them long enough for them to wear out.

aliasojo

jennihen wrote: »

DD1 is a nightmare - she's like a combo of Trinny and Suzanne. She picks up armfuls of clothes for herself but if I look at anything she tells me it makes me look fat, old, cheap . . . .

I picked up a roll of flowery wallpaper today...the kind of thing you would have on a feature wall. I got told I was looking at 'granny flowers'. :rotfl:

Where on earth do they get the notion from that they have taste and no-one else does?

aliasojo

painted wrote: »

I must say I never had any problem buying my two children clothes....but then they are both boys. I can still even now buy clothes they both like and ones 27 and one 21!

I have 2 lads the same ages (well one will be 21 in a couple of months). I never had this with them.

LJM

my daughter is 9 and she is always wanting to go places do things or wear things the same as her friends which i do not deem as respectable or good behaviuor, i keep telling her there is plenty of time for her to do things when shes older, im not a majorly strict person but i do like to set a few ground rules which i think most parents do, yet to see some of the children in her class you wouldnt think they were 9 some of them swear like a trooper, which i do not put up with and some of the girls just wear clothes that i deem as clubbers clothes for everyday wear. perhaps its just me getting older but her childhood is important she should be out playing and not worrying about her clothes her weight or any other adult type topics. we do argue occasionally but shes stubborn and im a redhead so probably not a great combination

Spendless

Do any of you have this kind of thing with your child at this age?

No, cos my child of this age is a boy.:p and is more than happy to wear whatever turns up in his wardrobe and would hate clothes shopping. I have a problem finding girl's clothes for my almostt 7yo that don't look like they've been designed by lifers on the 'special' wing!

thatgirlsam

i have a sort of problem ... ,i take my dd who is 10 into new look , primark etc and encourage her to get trendy clothes but no , she dresses like an eccentric art teacher !

and i let her btw