Contemplating moving our wedding location... to Australia!

kr15snw

O.k long one...

We we're meant to be getting married in August but due to major relationship issues pre-christmas we decided it was for the best to put it back. To keep things easy we put it back exactly 1 year so was still on the bank holiday weekend.

Well turns out H2B had already booked a surprise honeymoon! 5 weeks in Australia, wooh! So we decided to still go on this, but then not have a honeymoon after the wedding (just the one night in the venue).

We've been talking alot about the wedding recently and H2B has admitted that he's not at all comfortable with saying his vows in front of everyone and only wants to say the shortest possible one. I've now come to realise it's not the wedding I'm looking forward to, I just want to be his wife

Well we then spotted this: Linky

We both agree this is incredible and would be a dream location for us. And seeing as we've already booked to go out there!

We have never thought about going away to get married, but now we've started talking about it we both like the idea. The mental plan at the moment is we could get married at the end of our time in Sydney and then have the last 2 weeks in Oz as a real honeymoon (travelling up the east coast). Then when we come home we still have the meal and evening reception which we have booked (would just re-arrange this to January instead of August).

So the day would just be as normal, except people wouldn't see the ceremony.

We've checked costs and once you work out what we wouldn't need if we did this (flowers, dress, suit hire etc) it woudn't cost us much more either.

The only issue is I can see my mum not being impressed! My SIL2B got married in Florida and my mum said you should only get married in front of all your family and friends (until 6 months ago she said you also had to get married in a church, she's very traditional in these things). We mentioned it to MIL last night and she said it would be beautiful and to go for it. She wouldn't care in the slightest that she wasn't there.

AGRHHHH, so awkward as I think this is what we really want. And if we end up having the wedding in this country, we think it could be second best

EDIT: Forgot to mention we'd be going to Australia for Christmas

hayleythedaisy

If that's what you want then you've got to go for it! It sounds brilliant.

If it hadn't been for the bit about your OH not wanting to stand up in front of the others I was going to suggest you could have a blessing ceremony in the UK - I know of people who have done this and not even told their families that they got married "for real" in the register office!

Seems like it was fate really from your post.
Best of luck to you.

p-pincher

You should definately go for what for you want and if this is it, do it!!!!

My mum was far from impressed when we told her we were getting married in New York but thats what we wanted so that was the end of it. At least your prepared for her reaction. If both of you dont really want a church wedding then you really shouldn't do it, its your wedding at the end of the day, good luck x

kr15snw

Thanks Hayley, its a tricky one.

We have talked about a blessing back in the UK and think this could be a possible compromise depending on how much my mum hates the idea (she burst into tears when we said we were putting the wedding back a year and said she didnt know how she would cope and how she'd get through this terrible time!)

At the moment everything (expect the registrar) is booked and ready to go. And I reckon we could get away with not cancelling anything, just moving it! I would cancel my big white poofy dress (which I can get the deposit back on) and we then wouldn't bother ordering suits. Our meal is booked for 2pm so we could keep this and still have group photos before and individual ones of just us. I would buy a new dress, either a very simple (cheap) wedding dress or just something very smart from coast etc.

kr15snw

Phillip: Our holiday is already booked, and we are actually flying with Singapore as hubby to be flew with them before and loved it

pretzelnut

Do what you want to do, and what you feel happy with, but remember you postponed the wedding due to ''major relationship issues'', rushing into getting married wont fix them it will more than likely make them worse. You have postponed it for a year for a reason, fianancial or other reason is irrellevant.

I would use this time away to get back on track and discover each other again, have a whale of a time and not worry about getting married.

When i got married 1st time, my EX was super nervous, so much so a trip to the docs for meds was in order, but the vicar said he didnt care if no one else could hear or not as liong as he could her what was being said thats all that mattered. He doesnt have to project his voice to the back of the room if he doesnt want too, he could whisper id he liked.

bubble96

do it do it do it!!! we are having our honeymoon in australia this october, and we had talked about getting married over there, and only reason we didnt was because i thought i wanted my sister and parents there, and kind of wanted the dress and things. Now its closer to the time - wish we were getting married over there. The stress and hassles of planning and considering every single persons feelings, guest lists etc is a nightmare, and you know what, everyone has an opinion and expectations, but few are really interested for you, its more for selfish reasons - because they want to be involved or feel important. Your mum would get over it, especially if you are having a celebration when you get back.

kr15snw

Thank you for your comments everyone, it is very tempting.

Spoke to the future MIL last night and she thinks its a great idea. She would be in Australia at the time, but the other end of it (we're spending a few days on one side while she's on the other before she joins us, plus she leaves to travel up the coast before us) so she wouldn't see the ceremony either. She said the as long as her children are happy she is happy. Plus her daughter got married in Florida on their own, so she's used to it. Lol.

We have now been told by the bridge climb people that we could have it on Sunday 9th, but H2B has come up with the idea of doing it while we are in melbourne (we could get a day return for both of us for under £100). We would tell everyone (including MIL) that we were getting married in January at the end of the holiday, but when she came to join us in Melbourne (she arrives late christmas eve, so we won't see her till Christmas morning) we go 'Surprise!! We got married a few days ago!'

Now just to talk to my parents, oh god not easy..

DKLS

Go for it if thats what you want, It wouldnt be difficult to setup a webcam for family to watch the ceremony online, which is what some friends of ours did.

Also reassure your hubby to be, In my working life I can happily speak to a room with 800 people, but the thought of saying my vows and making a speech to 30 family and friends filled me with dread and fear.

As soon as my bride walked down the isle and the ceremony began, it felt like there was only 3 people in the room, myself and the bride and the registrar, and it was over all too quickly.

neneromanova

One thing I can see a problem with is IF you decided to get married on say that bridge, it'll be the middle of their Winter at the time you are looking to get married....But it's still a really good idea if you can do it. I mean you have the honeymoon already booked

kr15snw

neneromanova wrote: »

One thing I can see a problem with is IF you decided to get married on say that bridge, it'll be the middle of their Winter at the time you are looking to get married....But it's still a really good idea if you can do it. I mean you have the honeymoon already booked

Nooo... It's their summer. Remember their in the summer hemisphere so they are the opposite to us!