great news

uolypool

Hi I recieved a letter today from CSA informing me of the new schedule for CSA payments from my ex for our children following a spell of direct payment which so didn't work out .(see previous csa post from few weeks back) any way its gone back to £75 weekly amount with arrears for the past few weeks at £20 a week I am very pleased with the short time it took the CSA to deal with this and also it means I now have to have nothing to do with him, as an order has been made meaning he cannot contact me due to violence and also not sure though where I stand with the children seeing him They have all said they don't want to see him I'm more than happy with this but can he force them to see him via courts (he has been violent to myself recently and one of the children in the past ) .

missmontana

Well done, I guess he could try going to court, but if the children don't want to see him they would find it very hard to enforce.
I am sure they would decide in favour of the welfare of the children too or it would be under supervision if any access was granted.
Do you actually know if this is what he intends to do?

speedster

even with a history of violence, chances are he would get supervised visits via a contact centre. probably a couple of hours a fortnight.

i very much doubt that he will be the kind of father that is that bothered though. it could well just be a control issue for him.

in my experience of court proceedings, you'd be better off just letting him get on with it and let him have all the supervised visits he wants. if you protest, it could make you look ureasonable.

chances are, if you give the idiot enough rope, he'll hang himself with it and just not bother pursuing it if he thinks he's not "getting at you"

best thing you can do if he does pursue it, is just be the reasonable parent and you'll be fine.