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From Trash to Cash: the £100 to 10K Dribble thread, Part Deux

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  • cally6008
    cally6008 Posts: 7,629 Forumite
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    warmers ... yep, thats my dirty mind showing up, lol
  • I'm another very happy divorcee ... no regrets there, I can tell you.

    If having kids gives you a bad memory, does that mean that somewhere I have kids that I've forgotten about?
  • *hugs* Cally, what a difficult position you're in, I do feel for you. I can't 100% directly relate, but can understand where your OH is coming from. Long story cut short, my cousin was very close to us all then went off the rails a bit. Split from his wife and kids, stole money from my parents, got done for drunk driving, lost his job yada yada. Anyhow we had no contact for years # in th meantime his sister completely cut him out of her life as he'd been supportive of his mother remarrying after his fathers death, and she hadn't. Then I got in touch with him via his son when I randomly found him on Bebo and we picked up again. He was living near his kids and was on good terms with them again,I got him to come through and meet up with my parents again, and the past, for which he was genuinely sorry, was forgiven. Except his sister, who literally wouldn't recognise his existence.

    Six months after him being back in our lives, he died suddenly. I was, and still am, devastated by this ~ I can't help myself crying as I type this. But the fact that we made the effort to put the past behind us made the world of a difference, especially to him, and I still have the voicemail message one of his kids left me thanking me from the bottom of his heart for getting back in touch with his Dad and giving him back the family he was missing.

    My parents and I were invited to join his sons in the front row at the funeral. I know his sister was there somewhere, but I couldn't bring myself to talk to her. I wonder how she feels now.

    Bottom line Cally, is for you to consider this ~ if something happened to one of your parents, how would you feel about it? Would you be quietly devastated? If so, life is too short, I'd suggest making the effort so you have peace of mind ~ they will have to work at it too, so I'm not saying it would be easy, but I'm so glad I don't have the what-ifs.

    Toots x
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  • paulabear
    paulabear Posts: 1,278 Forumite
    Cally, think all you can do about OH is say positive things - it's sad he missed out on his dad but he should make the most of the family he's found as his dad would have been glad about that - and probably thought about it them all getting on :) my dad's dad left my grandma for a younger woman and left her on her own with two boys. About 12 years ago my dad started seeing his dad again; it was really weird meeting the 'other woman' my grandma had spoken about (she's still bitter about it) and I can't really take to my real grandad because of it. It's not OH's fault; he was influenced by family relationships, I hope he finds some peace through knowing his stepmum:) As for your parents, I think you've done well to keep making the effort if they're like that! xx
    Munchki, thank you! Will PM you in a sec xx
    I have come here to chew bubblegum and kick @ss.... and I'm all out of bubblegum.
  • paulabear
    paulabear Posts: 1,278 Forumite
    I'm another very happy divorcee ... no regrets there, I can tell you.

    If having kids gives you a bad memory, does that mean that somewhere I have kids that I've forgotten about?
    love it :rotfl:
    I have come here to chew bubblegum and kick @ss.... and I'm all out of bubblegum.
  • moneymabel
    moneymabel Posts: 7,910 Forumite
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    [QUOTE
    If having kids gives you a bad memory, does that mean that somewhere I have kids that I've forgotten about?[/QUOTE]
    :rotfl::rotfl:nice one!

    Hales-one to go green! 'sort out links Nixi (although it was actually Dilli-i am stupid) gave me-thanks hun :T

    Have made another necklace for seren collection so better get that photograped while the sun is actually out for a change I spose.
  • yukkibear
    yukkibear Posts: 5,556 Forumite
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    These are the first pics of my sock pets. The pigs are made using a pattern that I followed, but the lamb is my own customisation.

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  • moneymabel
    moneymabel Posts: 7,910 Forumite
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    They are fantastic Yukki!!! Sort of Hello Kitty type Funky but cute...i see a great new range in your future well done hun :-)
  • Ooo Yukki, they're brilliant!!!! :T I love that middle piggy and the lamb is sooo cute!!

    Toots x
    PROUD SUPPORTER OF THE DRIBBLERS!
    £97 / £11,000
  • EMminently
    EMminently Posts: 1,141 Forumite
    Thanks for sharing your story Crafty Toots, a very powerful sentiment, i couldn't agree more.

    My own personal view (although i know this is not shared by everyone) is that family relationships should be worked at. I know not everyone will agree. Everyone in my family irritates me from time to time and there have also been some huge huge issues over the years, however i feel that if i don't work at it, i'm not doing either the relationship or myself justice. I would hate to have any regrets about not giving a relationship the time and effort it needs. It's not easy and i often have to remind myself to be more tolerant, patient and accepting - and frequently have to bite my tongue.

    Yukki - love the sock creatures, can't wait 'til you've made a whole zoo full :)
    Just £10,852.28p to go...

    :D

    Trust that little voice in your head that says "Wouldn't it be interesting if...";
    And then do it.
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