Called off the wedding due to finances!

wit40iwtwan

I expect a few people will think I am barking mad but my other half and I made a silly financial mistake which meant that money for the wedding was spent on something else. With 4 months to go I was stressing out in a very big way as no amount of creative accounting would make the £2000 needed for our low key affair materialise!

I made the decision as I am not prepared to pare down the wedding even more than I have already pared it down. No honeymoon, no engagement ring, no bridesmaids, no wedding rings... now it would have been no food, vicar or drinks! Or take on more debt.. I chose to call it off...

What would you have done and as me and the other half are not in agreement I am now not sure if we are technically still engaged?

hayleythedaisy

It depends on you, your personal circumstances and what the day means to you.
For me personally.. I'd have still wanted to get married, I would have gone to the registry office with me, OH and close family, then invited people out for dinner afterwards (without paying for it). That's because although we are fortunate enough to be able to have our wedding as we want it, we would place more importance on our marriage than anything else.
HOWEVER, this is just my take, and if you feel that you have done what is right for you and you would have any regrets from having a "make do" day then you have done the right thing, and although your OH might not realise it at the minute if it was meant to be I'm sure he'll realise it was the right thing in the end.

And if you both still have the intention and promise to get married one day then in my mind you are engaged.

What ever happens, hope it works out for you xx

aimee21j

You have to do what you think is right. I'd say you are very sensible not getting further into debt. Do it the way you want to do it when you have saved up and you won't feel guilty about spending the money. Hubby and I were engaged for 6 years so we could save up.

sparklylime

Aww bless you ((hugs)) I would say you are still engaged. You should have a good chat with your OH and explain to him how you feel - that although your marriage is the most important part you would still like to make the day special. Maybe you could agree a date for the future that would allow a realistic amount of time to save the money you need. Even if thats 1 year or 5 years it is something to look forward to and work towards together.

wit40iwtwan

thanks all... I am happy with my decision and as long as OH really does want to work towards it as a team instead of just me doing the saving it will be on. Without this I think I am deluding myself. I wanted to get married more than he did... que sera sera whatever will be will be...

Saint_Chris

You made the decission that was right for you at the time.

One day it will be different, and when that day comes, you want it stress free, and have a bit of cash to spend.

xxx

Apricot

I think I would have done the same as you. I would rather wait and have the wedding that I want once I am able to afford it than put unnecessary pressure on myself to find money I don't have and end up stressed by the situation.