Some advice please?

FeeFee

Hello
I was a little nervous about posting here - there seems to be quite a lot of fiery debate between NRPs and PWCs points of view and I don't particularly want to get caught in the crossfire!!
Not sure if this is even the right place to post this but I would appreciate opinion as I am undecided as to what to do about my own situation.
I have been PWC of 1 for 5 years, during which time the NRP has not always consistently provided for our child. I went to the CSA rather reluctantly about 12 months ago and the effect of them contacting the NRP was the recommencement of the previous private arrangement. I agreed to this and stopped the CSA case, as I would prefer to maintain an amicable relationship if at all possible, although the CSA would have demanded the NRP pay more. This arrangement has been maintained pretty consistently since then.
My questions really relate to how to encourage (if this is even possible) better contact between child and NRP. I am fed-up with always taking the steps to make arrangements and 2 months between contact is not unusual. Understandably I am concerned for the effect of this on my young child.
I have to confess that during times of frustration with the lack of parental responsibility taken by the NRP I have been tempted to demand full CSA level of support payments - to what end I'm not even sure. I work fulltime and have a good job and am able to support us well; to inflict 'financial pain' on the NRP is probably going to be counterproductive in terms of getting the input in our childs life which is the true unfulfilled need here...
Any tips on encouraging the NRP to realise what both he and our child are losing out on??
Thanks..

DX2

Sadly you can't force a parent to have any contact with a child, and tbh if you think by forcing his hand by demaing full csa support payments will work it won't.

If he can't be 'rsed with the child leave him be, he's a fool.

FeeFee

Thanks, I know its beyond my control really.. Its instinctive to want to take steps to protect children from anything with the potential to harm them and having a parent that can't be @rs'd could be really damaging...

DX2

I understand FeeFee.

hardupfella

I allowed my son's dad to come to the house and visit,occasionally even took him out together,it wasent easy for me,but,so long as my son felt loved by both of us.there would be occasions when he [the dad]would let him down by not turning up,it breaks your heart,but i would not curse him infront of son.Im proud to say that he has turned out a wonderfull lad,he' 22 now.even the teachers were shocked when they found out he was from a single parent family,saying he was unlike others in the same situ,as it showed in ther behaviour.he speaks now often to his dad on the phone.I do hope you can somehow get your nrp to see that being part of his childs life is major.PLEASE DONT use the csa if you can help it.Iknow its hard but they can cause more annamosity between parents.My new partner[after 10 years on my own]knows this only to well,never see his kids and being chased for money.