Getting married on a Monday

Gleeful

We have spoken to our first choice venue today. They won't do a weekend as it's first and foremost a gastropub and they would lose too much business closing the whole place for a wedding. They can do a Monday, Tuesday or Wednesday. I'm not sure about this. It's over the Easter Holidays next year, but we did want the Friday or Saturday.

I know lots of people now get married on a weekday. I think a Friday would be good, as it makes it a long weekend for everyone, but I feel funny about it being on a
Monday. What does everyone else think?

Our second choice venue is available for the Saturday we want, but our first choice is somewhere special to us. Is it worth the compromise? The second choice would involve outside caterers, so I've started looking into that as a back up plan.

PasturesNew

Do they know it'd be Easter too? I'd be surprised if they let you have Easter Monday.

LearntMyLesson

Why don't you book your gastro pub venue for the night before or dinner the day after?

Then you could include it and have the wedding on your preferred saturday.

I know Saturdays are more expensive but the weddings I've been to on weekdays or sundays always feel a little "flat".

Gleeful

PasturesNew wrote: »

Do they know it'd be Easter too? I'd be surprised if they let you have Easter Monday.

It's the Monday before that.

LearntMyLesson wrote: »

Why don't you book your gastro pub venue for the night before or dinner the day after?

Then you could include it and have the wedding on your preferred saturday.

I know Saturdays are more expensive but the weddings I've been to on weekdays or sundays always feel a little "flat".

This is exactly my thinking. I feel a little less excited by a Monday. I know this shouldn't matter as it's not the day of the week it is that counts! Perhaps I'll come round to the idea.

sarah_elton

Went to a wedding on Sunday and it was a brilliant day but people did leave in dribs and drabs from about 9; those who hadn't taken the following day off work.

Ours is a Friday. I wanted a Saturday and was determined that people shouldn't have to take holiday from work for it, but our venue was £1,200 more for the Saturday and we couldn't justify it.

Been to a Thursday wedding and that was great, I think most people had taken the Thursday and Friday off to make a long weekend of it.

Tough call - venue choice versus day choice. I would say don't go with it if you're not quite feeling right about the day as it'll bug you and this is probably the most expensive party you'll ever throw. But it depends if you'd be happy with another venue?

Gleeful

sarah_elton wrote: »

Went to a wedding on Sunday and it was a brilliant day but people did leave in dribs and drabs from about 9; those who hadn't taken the following day off work.

Ours is a Friday. I wanted a Saturday and was determined that people shouldn't have to take holiday from work for it, but our venue was £1,200 more for the Saturday and we couldn't justify it.

Been to a Thursday wedding and that was great, I think most people had taken the Thursday and Friday off to make a long weekend of it.

Tough call - venue choice versus day choice. I would say don't go with it if you're not quite feeling right about the day as it'll bug you and this is probably the most expensive party you'll ever throw. But it depends if you'd be happy with another venue?

I know. I think I'm swaying more towards 2nd choice venue on the day we do want. I think this may be the cheaper option as well. It's a little further away from us but still as perfect visually (larger gardens too) I don't know why I've got such a mental block towards the Monday, I just have!

Our first choice is somewhere we go a lot, but if it's not possible to have the day we want, then perhaps we should give it a miss. As someone said above, we could always have the rehearsal dinner there instead.

Toothfairy4

I think it's be lovely for you to have the rehearsal dinner there if you can't have it as a venue. Is there much of a difference in price between the two?
I am having a Saturday so people don't have to take the day off work and also feel like they can let their hair down at the reception as they wont have to work the next day. However, if it is the holidays it might b different, I suppose it depends on whether many people are off work or not? x

Horace

Use the first choice venue as a place to go with your friends when you have come back from your honeymoon. if the thought of getting married on a Monday doesnt sit right then have the day you want..remember you only normally get married once and it has to be right otherwise you will niggle over it.

sal-ad_daze

Don't know if it helps but I married on a Monday, only one person refused to take time off work, had a wonderful day and celebrated our 26th wedding anniversary this year!

sparklylime

We are holding our wedding on a wednesday and although some of our guests have commented 'how unusual' no-one has complained about it or said they wouldn't come. Although saying that many of our guests are in jobs where they usually have days off in the week and find it more difficult to take a weekend off.

Maybe choice number 2 will grow on you if you visit again and look for all the positive things about the venue such as the larger gardens etc.

pretzelnut

we are getting married on a thursday, everyone is really excited about a mid week wedding. no one has complained and most people have booked the day off already.

Getting married mid-week was down to cost for us, we couldn't afford the extra inflated prices for a saturday, and although it didnt sit right with me at first, i was a great believer in marriages on saturday, christenings on sundays and funerals on weekedays - i absolutely love the idea now, NO where is booked on a thursday so i dont have to panic about availability of anyone.

And as its midweek and all our family have to travel and stay over there is still loads of hotel availability.

And our 1st anniversary will be on a friday instead of it being on a sunday!