Leaving work for childcare

sulkisu

pd001 wrote: »

sulkisu wrote: »

pd001 wrote: »

Edit: Telling the OP that giving up his job is a 'good idea', when he has made it clear that in doing so, he will not be able to pay child support for another child, is not exactly helpful - is it?
I actually said
'good idea..if......'(with a paragraph explaining why it may be considered to be a good idea in view of the OP's circumstances).

I got that, and if the OP only had one child to consider, then I would agree with you. But OP's circumstances are that he has two children in two separate households to support, and whatever he does has to work for both children. If he stops work (unless he has funds from elsewhere to support the other child), his first child will be unsupported.

Blonde_Bint

point taken you two, I was just trying to help:)

sulkisu

Blonde_Bint wrote: »

If the op wasnt working although in monetary terms he would have less or nil to give to the pwc. however, with him being available all day he could make himself available for (all) the children after school, when they are sick and someone has to leave work or take holidays to cover childrens sickness he will be available. pwc wont have to pay a childminder which would save a lot of money and leaving your child with a member of family is more reliable than any childminder.

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I do understand your point, but depending on the age/location of the other child, OPs ability to provide childcare might not be of much use - i.e if he lives some distance away, if pwc is at home anyway, if child is in school or free/low cost childcare readily available. Nor will it help to feed, clothe or provide for his child - that takes cold hard cash.

kelloggs36

OP will get a nil assessment, but needs to consider the moral issue of whether it is right to force the PWC to take up all the financial responsibility for their joint child.

sulkisu

Blonde_Bint wrote: »

point taken you two, I was just trying to help:)

I know, and I wasn't having a go. It just hit home because my friend is in the same position. Her ex gave up his job two years ago to become a stay at home dad, while his new wife (who earns mega-sums) became the sole breadwinner. Apparently he feels that he missed out on being at home with his first family; unfortunately it leaves my friend to support their three children without a penny from him.

PlayingHardball

Kelloggs states the facts quite clearly, it would be for OP to consider the moral issue. My ex did just that and took the first opportunity he had to leave me to support our child totally on my own.(he continues to work in a highly paid industry, but is just outside CSA jurisdiction-although he may come unstuck at tribunal, fingers crossed) I have no respect for people who take this route voluntarily.

BB - Interesting option, but I'd rather have the cash to help pay cost of living expenses for my child.

I would be interested to hear an update from 'runforcover' .. can't help wonder if this is a wind-up

runforcover

Sorry, I have just got back from recce so have not been able to respond.
The advice you have provided has been most helpful.
Just to clarify, I did not indicate that I would cease to pay anything, unfortunately my predictament necessitates some difficult decisions, largely as a result of CSA incompetency and my need to remain financially solvent to continue to be able to support each child, otherwise each one will ultimately suffer through inaction.
Unfortunately, tough decisions have to be taken sometimes and they may not rest easy with the moral aspects touched on above. I hope this post will be useful to others.