advice please

jacklink

hello,

thankyou.

speedster

all you can really do is just be there for her.

make sure she knows she can come to you at anytime and that you'll have an ear and a shoulder for her.

other than that, i'd try to act as normal as possible.

Blob

My kids lost their half sister, there were devistated and we had a lot of tears after the event. Did the child have a pet that has died in the recent past that she was close to. In my case I told them that their sister was with the family pet that had died a dog that had been with them all their lives. Through the tears and the up set they thought about this and it gave them a lot of comfort as well as dad a very wet shirt, but that was not a prob for me as it dried. I also had to sit up with them on some nights as well. It will not be an easy time when it happens, we all deal with death in different ways, the best advice I can give is to just be there and be supportive in anyway you can, and have the tissues ready as they will be needed.

jacklink

no pets have died in the meanwhile and cancer is unpredictable - ravages of the body are reported, its all so sad really. but will she really feel so sad as she was restricted from her father through her mother - boyfriend relationship. hhmmm, is this unprecidented? (doubt it). its hard, and if her feelings are really hardend for her not to have some degree of emotion it will to us show the damage that m + b really have on a child which could in effect be quite damaging, as to have minimum emotion may lesson compassion for human kind.

we do not know what we do to the psychology of our children.

god bless and thankyou for any advice given