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  • tandraig
    tandraig Posts: 2,260 Forumite
    hun he is messing with your head - DONT reply. please hun, if you reply you give him incentive to go on. IGNORE HIM, but now i am going to give what you may think is contradictory advice. copy all the messages he sent you. every one. keep them - print them out. do NOT reply to any more messages. print them out and keep them. why? this person is targeting you. and the more ammunition you can give to police the better. dont feel sorry for him - thats what he is counting on. if you get any more messages go to the police and let them deal with it. hopefully, a stern warning from them will stop him. you cant!
  • past is past, dont bother even making any comment, block him and get on with your life as you can do without this.
    To Love Is To Be In Love. Play with Fire Expect To Get Burnt. A Relationship Is A Two Way Thing!
    Love is not something you make up and it has away of making you push your own boundaries, love always comes out on top.
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  • MrsE_2
    MrsE_2 Posts: 24,162 Forumite
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    You could reply "you must be mistaking me for someone who gives a fcuk"
  • tandraig wrote: »
    hun he is messing with your head - DONT reply. please hun, if you reply you give him incentive to go on. IGNORE HIM, but now i am going to give what you may think is contradictory advice. copy all the messages he sent you. every one. keep them - print them out. do NOT reply to any more messages. print them out and keep them. why? this person is targeting you. and the more ammunition you can give to police the better. dont feel sorry for him - thats what he is counting on. if you get any more messages go to the police and let them deal with it. hopefully, a stern warning from them will stop him. you cant!

    I'd neverr involve the police and know he won't contact me again- he was angry and it wasn't a threatening message , just sad and telling me how i'd ruined him. I wish my head was clearer and that I understood why he sent such a long message full of hatred. The remark about turning up at his home or work after all this time is just weird seeing as it was HIM who initiated contact:confused:

    To still feel a need to punish me is crazy. He should have had it out with me at the time , not now he is happy with babies on the way. I guess i'll never know or find out when i'm dead and life is revealed. Maybe not:rolleyes:
  • tandraig
    tandraig Posts: 2,260 Forumite
    Soap wrote: »
    I'd neverr involve the police and know he won't contact me again- he was angry and it wasn't a threatening message , just sad and telling me how i'd ruined him. I wish my head was clearer and that I understood why he sent such a long message full of hatred. The remark about turning up at his home or work after all this time is just weird seeing as it was HIM who initiated contact:confused:

    To still feel a need to punish me is crazy. He should have had it out with me at the time , not now he is happy with babies on the way. I guess i'll never know or find out when i'm dead and life is revealed. Maybe not:rolleyes:

    hun - you do not know what is going on in his head. to you he should be happy. If he was happy why send you a message like that? happy people dont do things like that.

    I think you dont want to hear you may be in danger from him. I think you are. you are making excuses for him. but deep down - you posted this on here because you are afraid.
  • Steel_2
    Steel_2 Posts: 1,649 Forumite
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    Sounds like his life hasn't worked out the way he hoped and he's trying to punish you for that. Some people can't take responsibility for their own life and have to blame others.

    No-one forced him to marry and have kids. If he feels trapped now, tough.

    He'll get his what's coming to him. He's being hugely disrespectful to his wife and children. What goes around comes around.

    Chin up.
    "carpe that diem"
  • Soap_2
    Soap_2 Posts: 6 Forumite
    edited 17 December 2009 at 1:22AM
    tandraig wrote: »
    hun - you do not know what is going on in his head. to you he should be happy. If he was happy why send you a message like that? happy people dont do things like that.

    I think you dont want to hear you may be in danger from him. I think you are. you are making excuses for him. but deep down - you posted this on here because you are afraid.

    Seriously-I was with him for a couple of years and know i'm not in danger as for all the pain he's caused , he is not a bad man and would NEVER harm me physically or stalk me. Vice versa too. I know him inside out (he'd probably disagree) and know he still feels a lot of pain about us ,even though he has met a perfect match (she even looks like him) and preparing for babies or whatever marrieds do.

    Accepting his decision to leave me is one of the hardest things i've ever had to do but I did it and respected his choice.
    I'm not afraid of him , i'm just lost and wish I could change what happened . I'd like to go back to four years ago shake me and tell me to accept his love , seek help and to live well.
    I can't though:(

    At least he finally admitted that he had treated me terribly too. I don't know. Hopefully the next person I love won't let me down
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