Frustrated!!!

Loopy_Girl

doug3101 wrote: »

Would it be stupid to recommend that NRP's who are prevented from having contact with their children should have their payments cut? (obviously if a NRP is dangerous or would have a bad influence on the child this would not apply)
Discuss!

Personally I think it's a good idea and I'm a PWC:D

I don't think that any child should be denied contact with either parent so in that vein, what waht you suggest for 'compensation' for PWC whose NRP refuses point blank to see the child...and lets for !!!!!! and giggles assume that they pay what the CSA deem they should.

Should the PWC have the payments increased?

Loopy_Girl

dtc04 wrote: »

child support and access are unrelated

Whilst that should be true it can't be since an NRP gets a reduction for overnights stays this showing that CS and access are indeed related.

Donedoingdebt

bungle4x4 wrote: »

and we all live in happy land, with rivers of gold, and tree's that sprout cherry bakewells.

Can you make that Jaffa Cakes? I don't like Cherry Bakewells!

DX2

Loopy_Girl wrote: »

Personally I think it's a good idea and I'm a PWC:D

I don't think that any child should be denied contact with either parent so in that vein, what waht you suggest for 'compensation' for PWC whose NRP refuses point blank to see the child...and lets for !!!!!! and giggles assume that they pay what the CSA deem they should.

Should the PWC have the payments increased?

See the pound signs gleaming in my eyes. :rotfl:

Nitha

Why can't you sort out a private arrangement with the grandma? Why don't you have your child if your ex doesn't want her? I'd go nuts if my OH let his ex MIL have my stepson!

shell_542

Nitha wrote: »

Why can't you sort out a private arrangement with the grandma? Why don't you have your child if your ex doesn't want her? I'd go nuts if my OH let his ex MIL have my stepson!

From the looks of the OP's posts, he doesn't see his daughter as she doesn't want to have contact with him.

Nitha

shell_542 wrote: »

From the looks of the OP's posts, he doesn't see his daughter as she doesn't want to have contact with him.

Sounds like my FIL. How old is the daughter? If she's old enough to be making that sort of decision I'm assuming there aren't many more years to pay so the sensible option is to make the required cutbacks.

Loopy_Girl

Donedoingdebt wrote: »

Can you make that Jaffa Cakes? I don't like Cherry Bakewells!

Funny cos I always thought you'd be a cherry bakewell kinda man!!;)

How's life?:D

kelloggs36

doug3101 wrote: »

I have had an original CSA claim closed in March 2009 after my childs mother failed to inform them that my child had moved in with her grandmother two years previously. I have had some money repaid to me (eventually).
In May 2009 my childs grandmother applied to the CSA wishing to get child maintenance from me, this was proccessed and I was informed I would have to pay £32.00 per week, I tried to tell the CSA that this amount was too much but was told they were unable to speak to me about the new case due to the original case being 'technically stuck'.
I have now been informed that I will have to pay arrears from May to November of £895.00 together with the original £32.00 per week, making my payments about £170.00 per month. This is well beyond my means as I am the sole wage earner in my house and my wife and I have 3 children to support in our own household.
I am also sure that my childs mother is not paying any money towards her own daughters upkeep and, if pressed, my daughters' mother and grandmother would probably just say that they had come to a private arrangement to fob off the CSA.
In this case there are no 'parents with care' and from what I can gather the CSA rule regarding the non resident parent (see below) would not apply as my daughter chooses not to visit me at all and the grandmother is in receipt of the child benefit.
Non-resident parent – a parent who is not the main provider of day-to-day care for a child. If the child stays with both parents, the non-resident parent is the one who provides fewer nights of care. If care is shared equally, the non-resident parent is the one who is not getting Child Benefit.
I am not trying to shirk any responsibilty here but feel that the maintenace should be 50/50 between myself and my childs mother instead of me being the cash cow (as usual)
What chance an appeal?

Appeal against what and on what grounds? MIL claiming child support - she is a person with care and as such has every right to claim child support from you, you and your ex, your ex or neither of you - her choice. Your assessment won't be affected whether or not she claims against your ex.

Whether or not you feel that the assessment is beyond your means is irrelevant in the eyes of the law - child support is a priority debt over and above any credit you may have so you need to make adjustments to ensure that you can actually afford to make these payments. You had a daughter before you had more children - your first daughter does not disappear and cost nothing because you have chosen to have more children; you are a parent and therefore have a financial responsibility towards her. It has been worked out based on current legislation, so if you want to appeal you will have to prove that it has been done incorrectly. If it has, eg it has not taken account of your other children then it will be amended, but if it is correct and you want to appeal because you feel it unfair that your MIL has chosen to chase you rather than your ex, then you have no chance of winning as there are no grounds at all.