1st Fed up day

domesticgoddess

hi, not a good morning so far for me. So far since being on my DMP I've felt fairly happy and not like life was too retrictive for me or the family.

Today well for a start the kids thought that 6am was a good time to be up awake and very very nosiey.

The hubby had to rush to go to work leaving me little time to get dressed etc (youngest 2 can't be left on their own) and I feel so fat and ugly. My weight has not dropped since my youngest and the last 2/3 weeks I've felt constantly ill and tired, plus I'm supposed to working too. There was nothing in the wardrobe that fits me, I have a bag of clothes which no longer fit and even the size up from what I usually wear is tight.

I'm soo fed up, I've cut back on food and no result, exercise at the moment never seems to be possible, which I know is negative, I feel so down I just want to go back to bed and cry. And I'm supposed to be working, I need my job we wouldn't cope if I wasn't working

DG

CosmoCat

Oh DG, seems like today is a universal bad day for all of us.

i'm sending you ((((((hugs)))))) and lots and lots of positive vibes. i know those days when we just feel like !!!!!!, when our wardrobes and lives seem to be ganging up on us (i too am overweight, and i don't even have any children:eek:). I promise you it will turn around.

I promise you tomorrow will be better.

more (((((hugs))))

Lewby

Hi DG, Sorry you are feeling so down this morning ... but we all have days like this. I think it's just part of lifes pattern and we can't prevent it. I am generally a very happy, sociable and positive person but I occasionally have days where I just want to go to bed, not speak to anyone and feel incredibly horrible!

If you have stopped eating properly then that may be why you feel so tired etc. I have found that following a sensible diet where I eat plenty of fruit, veg, salad, drink lots of water and occasionally eat something I really love keeps me on track. It takes a while to see the benefit but just feeling like you are in control of it helps.

You have taken control of your finances, you have a family who obviously rely on you, you have a job and a regular income to keep the debt repayment going so all in all things probably aren't as bad as they seem today.

It's OK to feel cr*p sometimes but try to lift yourself by focusing on the positive things you have. I end up saying 'it's up to me to make a difference for myself' and I think of things I'd like to be doing in 6 weeks time when I've been sensible with the diet and have lost 10lbs or so. I'm aiming for the kids summer hols at the moment and want to lose a stone by then ... which is perfectly achievable in 7 weeks.

Add it to your signature and see the weight drop, slowly towards a weight that suits you. For me it's a control thing. If I don't feel happy with what I'm eating and think I'm losing weight (which I need to lose 2 stone) I feel out of control in most other areas of my life. We've had threads on here about it and it seems commonplace to link financial control and weight control together ... and the rest of our lives seem much more positive when we have control of both.

Sorry for the lecture! Hope it helps a little. Make the decision today to get onto a senisible eating plan and strat to feel better for you.

Lewby xx

domesticgoddess

Lewby wrote:

Hi DG, Sorry you are feeling so down this morning ... but we all have days like this. I think it's just part of lifes pattern and we can't prevent it. I am generally a very happy, sociable and positive person but I occasionally have days where I just want to go to bed, not speak to anyone and feel incredibly horrible!

If you have stopped eating properly then that may be why you feel so tired etc. I have found that following a sensible diet where I eat plenty of fruit, veg, salad, drink lots of water and occasionally eat something I really love keeps me on track. It takes a while to see the benefit but just feeling like you are in control of it helps.

You have taken control of your finances, you have a family who obviously rely on you, you have a job and a regular income to keep the debt repayment going so all in all things probably aren't as bad as they seem today.

It's OK to feel cr*p sometimes but try to lift yourself by focusing on the positive things you have. I end up saying 'it's up to me to make a difference for myself' and I think of things I'd like to be doing in 6 weeks time when I've been sensible with the diet and have lost 10lbs or so. I'm aiming for the kids summer hols at the moment and want to lose a stone by then ... which is perfectly achievable in 7 weeks.

Add it to your signature and see the weight drop, slowly towards a weight that suits you. For me it's a control thing. If I don't feel happy with what I'm eating and think I'm losing weight (which I need to lose 2 stone) I feel out of control in most other areas of my life. We've had threads on here about it and it seems commonplace to link financial control and weight control together ... and the rest of our lives seem much more positive when we have control of both.

Sorry for the lecture! Hope it helps a little. Make the decision today to get onto a senisible eating plan and strat to feel better for you.

Lewby xx

I agree with you about the link between weight and financial control, I really want control over both. It feels so hard right now, however I think my problem today is PMT, or delayed PMT, I think my emotions are all over the place and need a hug and need something postive.

Its the silly things isn't it, today I put on a T-shirt which actually fits and it has a stain on it! I don't use soap powder only eco balls which save money and the enviroment but don't remove stains so it looks fairly old which means I won't be able to remove it.

Am going to clear away the breakfast dishes have a coffee and smile and see if that helps. Other than that I just may have to accept that today is going to be a day where I want to cry. Oh and the post hasn't arrived yet !!

Yesterday I managed to get Diners to remove a charge from my account which was good.

Thanks for your post
DG

homersimpson_3

however I think my problem today is PMT, or delayed PMT...
I put on a T-shirt which has a stain on it! ....I just may have to accept that today is going to be a day where I want to cry."

you've done really well getting the diners charge removed. if your just pottering around house no one will see t-shirt. if you go out just put a cardigan over it- no one will know. my friend suffers dreadfully with pmt- very emotional. for one day a month she cries all the time- it's like a wall of emotion being released from a dam. there's nothing particularly wrong- it justs needs to be released. the smallest of things will set her off and the next day when emotion released she's bouncing again and is back to being usual happy self. the trick is just try and avoid stressful situations (easier said than done particularly if you have children). leave anything difficult you can until tommorrow and eat something sweet. she says it's a bit like being pregnant- satisfying craving helps. even if you are trying to lose weight- one day is not going to matter. also avoid contentious people - less tolerance.

domesticgoddess

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thanks, that has made me smile
xxx

Lewby

Glad you have smiled. Here's a BIG HUG :grouphug:

Sometimes it would be nice if we all lived nearby so we could pop round for coffee ... but we have to make do with our board and sending each other positive messages and support.

PMT is something that absolutely cannot be avoided and has to be got through. Fortunately it doesn't last too long. I take starflower oil capsules which really helps .... well it makes me feel psychologically like I'm doing something about it so maybe that's what works!!

Spend the day planning healthy meals, go out for a 30 minute walk (it's really sunny where I am and that's good for lifting the mood) and drink lots of water.

I'm going to sort out my clothes later and have 3 piles, 1 - fit now and can wear, 2 - a bit tight but will fit me in 7 weeks time and 3 - going on E-bay as don't fit, don't like and don't want anymore!

Let us know how you are later on.

Lewby xx

snoozer

I know just how you feel - that was me after my second baby. Please make an appointment to see your doctor and explain how you feel - how difficult it is to lose weight and how tired you feel. Ask if they think you should have a blood test to see if you are anaemic or low thyroid function.

About 18 months after my second child I was diagnosed with an underactive thyroid, unfortunately it took ages because so many of the symptoms are vague and people put it down to looking after children etc.

If it is an underactive thyroid it's easily treatable and the tiredness soon goes. Unfortunately the weight doesn't come off so easily despite what the doctors tell you::rolleyes: You also get free prescriptions for life - a huge moneysaver, although I'd rather not have the illness.

wanttobedebtfreenatty

Hi DG,

Hope that your day has got better.
Keep your chin up.

domesticgoddess

thanks, think i will do now

beanielou

Hi
hope your day has got a wee bit better
Try what i do when Im having a bad day & break the day into little bits so its easier to get through the day!!
Ive just tried to get into three pairs of trousers and cant so really need to start cutting down.Gave up smoking in March and have been eating too much since-eek! So you are not alone!!
Take care