Family involved with wedding day

filigree_2

Funny, I just said on another thread that however awful your family can be, the inlaws top it in spades...

I had nothing but criticism from the future inlaws about my wedding plans - they didn't like the venue, the city we live in, the food, the booze, the gift list, the guest list... everything was slated.

My family (who paid) just turned up and had a nice time. If they had any complaints at least they had the manners not to say it to my face.

I couldn't believe how rude people could be about a wedding - they seem to think your big day is somehow public property and freely insult everything you plan for the day, even though they get loads of free food and booze out of it. If you don't approve, don't flipping well come! Since then I've vowed to NEVER question someone else's wedding choices, and believe me I've been to some very odd weddings. If the food's a bit cold or the dress looks like net curtains, I wouldn't dream of saying a word.

Glad to say this miserable bunch are now ex-inlaws.

If there's ever a next time, I'm eloping!

melancholly

i'm not married but have seen friends go through all same kind of fun!
and it's not just weddings - it's family members at any family event - at my grandfather's funeral one relative loudly criticised the choice of hymns, chosen by my grieving grandmother. luckily i didn't hear or i would have thrown him out (which is perhaps why no-one mentioned it to me at the time!)

hope the venting makes you feel better...... and as it's your sister (who i assume isn't contributing financially? if she is then it gets a bit more complicated) can you just try to tell her she's being a little bit awkward (a massive understatement but better than what you actually feel!).

it's a day for the two of you - the people who care about you will be so pleased to see you have a happy day together that anyone else can just go and jump!

(and if we ever do get married, i've already told OH that we're eloping!)

towseriv

skystar wrote:

Anyway, hope you have a great wedding. When is the big day?!?

June 10th

If I dont kill someone first (bride too possibly, with all the not needed worrying she is doing