chances of a church wedding

blondie81_2

hi alll
looking for some info, my partner and i want to get married next year, if possible in a church he has been divorced, and was separated but still living in the same house as his ex when we got together, due to financial issues and their young son. we have been together now for nearly 9 years and i am worried that this will stop our dream of a church wedding, his divorce papers say the marriage dissolved. what do you think?

morag1202

Should not be a problem in a C of E Church as long as you were not the cause of his marriage breakdown. Sil2b is divorced and they are getting married in church. Good luck.

chelbel1981

It depends on the church. Some do and some don't

Churches don't seem to be as strict as they were

MustStopSpending23

Hi Blondie81,

OH is also divorced and I was worried about the same thing.

We were turned away from 2 church's because he's been previously married - it's solely the Vicar's decision. However we tried a 3rd church (where OH was christenend) and he was more than happy to marry us as long as i wasn't the cause of the break up. The Vicar doesn't need to know about the domestics of when you first got together. If you get turned down at the first church, don't give up hope. x

nat82

Catholic Church is a no no but you should find another church that would be willing to marry you. I know Church of Scotland would but not sure about CoE or others. It should be do-able though.

cleomolly

as others have said it depends on the particular vicar. We're getting married on Holy Saturday which in most COE churchs is a no no, but ours was happy to do it as the church ment a lot to me and I had a good link with the church ie grew up in village, helped when in school on projects clearing the church grounds, brother christend there (I am not baptised). So I think if you're choosing the right church for the right reasons you shouldn't have a problem. COE website has some great advice on there too. Good luck

nannyboo1

as has already been said RC would be a definite no no. C of E the higher the church the less chance I would think. I was married for a second time in church but had strong connection with the church. It was a Methodist church and they be more amenable then some C of E churches.

I hope that you get your wish to be married in church

blondie81_2

cleomolly wrote: »

as others have said it depends on the particular vicar. We're getting married on Holy Saturday which in most COE churchs is a no no, but ours was happy to do it as the church ment a lot to me and I had a good link with the church ie grew up in village, helped when in school on projects clearing the church grounds, brother christend there (I am not baptised). So I think if you're choosing the right church for the right reasons you shouldn't have a problem. COE website has some great advice on there too. Good luck

snap that is the date we are looking for the vicar has said it is doable on that date but got to meet with us a few times first due to the divorce situation

talkhard

I wouldn't discount a Roman Catholic church so quickly.

We recently had a Gospel in our church about divorced Catholics and he said he is quite happy to marry a divorcee as long as the reason for the divorce was not their fault.

This *may* be very specific to the Priest in this case but it is worth a try.

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