Bad Day, feeling down

Poodle34

Hi Everyone,

Need some support today, we went BR on 2nd July, still not heard about BI in the house as OR wants hubbys payslips for the month of October to see what overtime he is doing. It is a joke, he got paid today all £230 of it. £150 has to go to the nursery, £30 in the car for petrol, £30 on food £10 on prescriptions and £10 left for the whole week.

I know we have had our debts wiped and aren't in that boat any more, but am sick of being so broke and just want to know my house is safe as being skint like this is bringing me down if it turns out that they don't let us keep the house. We are def in negative equity and had to send docs to the OR but he said that he won't deal with the house the RTLU will and that he won't transfer our files there till my hubby has submitted his wage slips. Such a pointless waste of time but I know I have to adhere to what he says but it is bringing me down so much, all I want to do is cry today.

I just feel a mixture of embarassment, shame and worry and some of my so call friends have turned out not to be very supportive at all and I have nobody I feel I can confide in about this anymore. Don't want to moan to hubby as he is going through the same thing too.

Sorry folks, just needed to get it off my chest. thanks for listening!

tigerfeet2006

That's what we are here for, to lend a listening ear.

Have a check on https://www.entitledto.co.uk to see that you are recieving all the help you should be.

As for your friends, they are just jealous that you have had the courage to take control of your life and they are to scared to. I bet many of them live on the credit cards.

Hold your head up high, you and your OH have done noyhing wrong.

josephine1_2

Poodle the stress of waiting to know about your home must be awful and you need support as BR is hard. BUT, BR does have a way of showing you who you can truly count on and makes you much stronger as a person. It will get better, like me it sounds like you have children and they are so costly! Even with bargain hunting on virtually everything, the cost of her nursery left as at times with not much, but it won't be so hard for so long. Get everything you're entitled to, get all the bargains, stuff you need from carboots/freecycle and tell people how you feel and ask for their support. Some people may not know how to help?

cavework

Poodle34..
We had loads of 'Friends' when we were financially secure. Did a load of favours for them as well..
Then we hit rock bottom and our REAL friends shone out:A
Some of the people who decided we weren't worth bothering with are now in the same situation..
Hold your head up and be proud you are dealing with this instead of sticking your head under a blanket.
xx

Poodle34

Thanks everyone, it helps knowing this board is here and that people are going through similar.