When does it stop? I am so confused!

Pink_Potato

Can someone please help me...When does Child Maintenace actually stop? The reason I am asking is because I think my husband and I, are being taken for a ride by his ex-wife! His daughter, whom in December will be 18 has from what i can gather part time education, she gets her £30 per week EMA allowance, she also has a part-time job and we still give monthly money to his ex-wife (agreed amount not through the CSA) Does anyone know the answer?

Oldernotwiser

Pink_Potato wrote: »

Can someone please help me...When does Child Maintenace actually stop? The reason I am asking is because I think my husband and I, are being taken for a ride by his ex-wife! His daughter, whom in December will be 18 has from what i can gather part time education, she gets her £30 per week EMA allowance, she also has a part-time job and we still give monthly money to his ex-wife (agreed amount not through the CSA) Does anyone know the answer?

If she gets EMA then she must be in full time education as you don't get it when studying part time. Most people carry on supporting their children whilst they're still in education.

Blackpool_Saver

EMA is paid whilst in full time education, as is child benefit, while child benefit is in payment child support is a legal requirement, even if it wasn't it should be a moral obligation. Is your husband as upset about paying it as you are?

joanne36

As far as I am aware to recieve EMA a child will be only in full time education. so therefore as a parent of a child in full time education they will be supported until they are 19 years old, or leave full time education.

If the child has a job it has no relevance on the support from either parent, as they are still responsible for maintaining a child financially whilst they study until the age of 19/20.

So unless your partners child leaves full time education then there is still a short while of support the child will benefit from, but surely the light is at the end of the tunnel here!! ;-)

Donedoingdebt

Child support via the CSA is payable until the child is 19 unless:

The child leaves further education & gets a job.

The child takes an advanced education course at university.

If the child remains in further education, such as college & some uni foundation courses, then child benefit remains payable & therefore, so does CSA liability.

Gorgeous_George

There's a world of difference between supporting your child and paying Child Support to your ex-wife. The first is a moral dilemma and the second is State-sponsored' obtaining money with menaces' [1]. (IMHO of course).

GG

[1] Whosoever sends, delivers, or utters, or directly or indirectly causes to be received, knowing the contents thereof, any letter or writing demanding any property of any person, with menaces or any threat, and without reasonable cause, shall be liable to imprisonment for ten years.

jpmummy

Blackpool_Saver wrote: »

EMA is paid whilst in full time education, as is child benefit, while child benefit is in payment child support is a legal requirement, even if it wasn't it should be a moral obligation. Is your husband as upset about paying it as you are?

I think that the OP just wanted to know when it stops. I don't think that they where asking for moral advice when they simply asked that question.
I don't think morals should come into it! People have their own circumstances and are simply asking for money saving advice.

OP - 19 is the cut off with CSA.

Dancing_Shoes

Once you are past CSA age if you have the funds available it may be an idea to pay money into an account for the child to help them on their way. Obviously this is only if you can afford to do so

Blackpool_Saver

jpmummy wrote: »

I think that the OP just wanted to know when it stops. I don't think that they where asking for moral advice when they simply asked that question.
I don't think morals should come into it! People have their own circumstances and are simply asking for money saving advice.

OP - 19 is the cut off with CSA.

I am sure you are right, but it is usually second wives who resent paying.

NB I have been a first and second wife.

Dancing_Shoes

Blackpool_Saver wrote: »

I am sure you are right, but it is usually second wives who resent paying.

NB I have been a first and second wife.

I am a second wife and I don't resent the maintenance we pay for my husbands children, I resent the abuse and the harrassment we have suffered but not the money that is needed to help to raise them. My husband moans about the money not me;)

LizzieS_2

As a pwc I would not take anything off my child/expect child to buy things I had always bought in the same situation as OP. In other words my child will be better off (and saving - I could hope there!) but I would still have the same expenses. Had I not parted from the ex, the stance from both of us would have been as I stated.