help with getting things in order

rene2b

ok i had a day off work today to sort some wedding bits out :eek:
i just cant get my head around everything,i kind of know what i want and have a 'wedding file'but i just cant get things in order

ive booked the church
we have been to the venue today to pay everything up :j
ive got my dress
have a few ideas for tables,sweetie table

but thats it:mad:

there must be a easy/stress freee way of doing things
or a order to follow

i just keep going from one to the other and not finishing the first job

ive got half a sweetie table
i need chair covers but dont know who to trust
still no bridesmaids dressess till my dress maker comes back off hols(bless her)

stressing outtttt!!!!:o

how have you all got things in order?please share

shellsuit

I've just got a notebook and have a page for each thing.

So for example...

Ceremony

Venue

Car

Photographer

Sweet table

Cake

My dress, shoes, underwear, accessories etc

OH's suit, shirt etc etc

Kids outfits etc

Hair

Make up

Flowers


You get the jist lol

Then on each page I have my idea, my final choice, my deposit paid, my balance owed, the dates payments have to be made by etc

Then as I do something, I just cross it out of the list, so I can see what I need to do/buy/book/pay etc

Horace

Here is a list that I posted earlier - a timeline of when things should be done.

You can easily note down what needs doing and when you have done it cross it off the list.

10 – 9 months – Initial meeting with your planner if using.

Determine Date and time
Visit clergy – local church – book venue – confirm religious orientation
Discuss venue requirements
Discuss budget
Size of guest list
Theme of the wedding – formal?
Discuss Bridal dress styles
Discuss and book reception venue
Select wedding dress – then wedding accessories

9-6 months

Pick colour theme
Discuss, choose and book live wedding band
Compile guest list – send save the date cards
Arrange meetings with caterers, photograher, videography, florist
Choose attendents – confirm outfits
Decide on ceremony music, poems/readings/vows
Discuss Invitations' style
Book suppliers (as above)

6-4 months

Place order for wedding stationery
Organise wedding favours, decorations, placecards
Book transport
Wedding cake – discuss and order
Book Honeymoon – think visa/vaccinations/travel insurance if applicable
All deposits to suppliers to be paid

3 – 2 months

Buy Rings
Arrange for registration of gift list
Address and send invitations
Hair and make-up rehearsal - book

1 month

Finalise all aspects
Confirm honeymoon details
Final fitting – Bride and attendents
Marriage licence
Pick up rings

2 weeks

Annoucement in local newspaper
Contact guests who have not responded
Pick up bridal gown and attendents outfits

1 week

Confirm final number of guests with suppliers
Table plan
Full dress rehearsal
Facial/fake tan
Final check – rings – licence – attire

Day before wedding

Dress reception venue/church if required
Nails
Confirm wedding day timetable
Flowers/buttonholes delivery

Wedding day

Hair
Make up
Dressing
Rings
Licence
Pay all outstanding bills from suppliers
Wedding announcements


HTH

rene2b

thank you to both of you
i think everything just got abit much yestersday lol
im ok now lol

fastbargins

Hey Rene

On every page of your wedding plan, make a note of different ideas for taking a bit of chill time to help you remind yourself that you have to work at not getting too stressed out!

There are also bags of on-line wedding planning applications that will remind you what to do and when, we used confeti.com for our wedding (you have to put up with some 'suggestions' for things you might want to buy, but the applications are good). Horace’s list is pretty comprehensive though.

A couple of things to be aware of that totally stressed my wife out are that 1) almost every time you go to arrange something (like booking a cake for example), you'll get a look of horror from the sales person when you say when the wedding is, that - Oh my, you're leaving this very late to organise! kind of look. Don't fall for this as quite often it's a trap to rush you into booking with them and not shopping around for the best deal. If they actually do think you've left it too late, they won't take your order and won't waste time in telling you that.
And 2nd thing that stressed my wife was that there are so many things you have to order way in advance (like the dress) and then you hear nothing about it for months! If you think about it, that's normal, you wouldn't expect to get your final dress fitting before Christmas when your weddings in July, but Man all that waiting is stressful! But if you ask with everything 'so when will I next hear from you' then you have a date in mind for when to worry if you haven't heard from them!

My last top tip is, when buying or booking stuff, wherever possible don't tell the company that its for a wedding, well not at first anyway. If you can get a quote or even an estimate before you have to mention the ‘W’ word, the company will find it much harder to hike the price up! Our favourite line was 'we're planning a really special celebration for my parents 40th anniversary...' saved us a fortune!

rene2b

fastbargins wrote: »

Hey Rene

On every page of your wedding plan, make a note of different ideas for taking a bit of chill time to help you remind yourself that you have to work at not getting too stressed out!

There are also bags of on-line wedding planning applications that will remind you what to do and when, we used confeti.com for our wedding (you have to put up with some 'suggestions' for things you might want to buy, but the applications are good). Horace’s list is pretty comprehensive though.

A couple of things to be aware of that totally stressed my wife out are that 1) almost every time you go to arrange something (like booking a cake for example), you'll get a look of horror from the sales person when you say when the wedding is, that - Oh my, you're leaving this very late to organise! kind of look. Don't fall for this as quite often it's a trap to rush you into booking with them and not shopping around for the best deal. If they actually do think you've left it too late, they won't take your order and won't waste time in telling you that.
And 2nd thing that stressed my wife was that there are so many things you have to order way in advance (like the dress) and then you hear nothing about it for months! If you think about it, that's normal, you wouldn't expect to get your final dress fitting before Christmas when your weddings in July, but Man all that waiting is stressful! But if you ask with everything 'so when will I next hear from you' then you have a date in mind for when to worry if you haven't heard from them!

My last top tip is, when buying or booking stuff, wherever possible don't tell the company that its for a wedding, well not at first anyway. If you can get a quote or even an estimate before you have to mention the ‘W’ word, the company will find it much harder to hike the price up! Our favourite line was 'we're planning a really special celebration for my parents 40th anniversary...' saved us a fortune!

thank you soo much
you couldnt of said it better your right in what you say:D
ill bear all this is mind

the 'look'
the 'prices'

thank you x