I'm stressed

sweetserendipity

aliasojo wrote: »

Could I borrow your husband please?

Sounds like you already have mine ... :rolleyes::rotfl:

Actually, that's not funny!! I feel & share your pain!!

Chin/s up missus You will get there with that bathroom, with or without OH help/hindrance.

Sweet xx

~daisy~_2

hugs from a lc chum xxxxxxx

jenhug

Can I say, I so know how you feel!

aliasojo

Hello my friendly icers...long time no see. Can't even think about icing at the moment, lol.

Normal service is resumed today. Yesterday was just one big black cloud blip but I have my coping head on again this morning.:D

Thanks for keeping me company yesterday and cheering me up/on peeps. :beer:

Btw, house rental person got money ok yesterday and does seem genuinely ok about the mess up thankfully.

Now I'm having a quick cuppa then I have a date with some ply.

Princess_Jane

I'm sitting in the remains of my front room with dust everywhere as our house renovation project continues.

My OH can re-build a house from scratch, I can't re-wire a plug and work six days a week, long hours.

He also works nights as a taxi driver and so the project drags on.

The rooms that are finished look fab and yes, we've saved thousands on tradespeople etc, but I've told him when we move again I'd happily pay £15k more for a new build that doesn't even need a lick of paint.

Ongoing DIY is VERY stressful!

londoner1998

aliasojo wrote: »

Life isn't one long 'interesting' party though. To me, two people in a relationship have to step up to the plate for the 'non interesting' times too.

Do you think I like what I'm doing? I hate it, I'd much rather be doing 'interesting' things too. I make the effort though because this is our family home. That's the difference, I make the effort to sort things out for us all, he makes the effort to check out walking boots. :rolleyes:

Actually, I'm getting angry again.

I am not suggesting for a second that he should get away with it just becasue he is not interested... I totally get where you are coming from, but what I am suggesting is that you try and understand that he is not just incapable- it might be the case that becasue you have done everything he just doesn't show interest because he is not interested and know you will get it done and very well ... ifykwim...may be a reward scheme, coupled with encouragement and tons of patience will work : it worked for me...these days he is doing ALL of the washing up...he finally smarted up to the fact that he will save a lot of s*** if he just does it the first time around. But also, if he wants to cook (ie, get all the crokery out, the kitchen messy from top to bottom and the sink full for a simple omelette), I will not say anything and let him get on with it, take a deep breath and go to another room, do some yoga or go out for a coffee... at least I will have half an hour of no work at all, we'll deal with the mess later, somehow.

What I am trying to say is, it is not worth you getting stressed out and wishing he were different. Try and find a way that works, considering that DIY and house renovations are always hell...I hope you have an easy day ahead of you...

Pee

Does he know that you are at the end of your tether with him?

pavlovs_dog

glad to hear your morning was a bit brighter.

sending positive vibes, chocolate hobnobs and pins for your husband-shaped voodoo cushion your way :grouphug:

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I take my hat off to you aliasojo and congratulate you on being able to do the diy. Im useless at it and havnt got the patience, my boyfriend on the other hand is fantastic at any diy job. In the past ive moaned and nagged him to get the jobs done (he started work at 4am one morning just so he could get to my flat and finish off my flooring). I dont moan anymore, im just the gofer as having tried to do some jobs and failed miserably i appreciated what he does. Im usually happy to fetch the hammer, nails, make tea and clear up etc etc. So be proud of yourself.

Kaz2904

Oh how I felt for you when I read your post.
My DH is great at DIY - he's fantastic.......but he's not so great at the time management aspect of it. Our kitchen was almost finished 23/12/06 and we had MiL for christmas dinner so the plumber did us a special favour and came up that evening to fit the hob. We then spent the night putting the cupboards, worksurfaces and appliances in.
That is how it has stayed until I got fed up of falling over everything and started the tiling in February. To be fair, I haven't quite finished it yet either, I'm doing the last wall tomorrow. I have to go to a function with DD tomorrow evening so I've told DH that he can finish the grouting tomorrow night.

I told him about this thread and he chuckled. Very occasionally it makes me chuckle about him never finishing a job but it is rare!