invites?

foxxymynx

Do I send invitations to ask people to come to dinner with us for our wedding anniversary or not?

We're paying for 2/3 courses but we're going to say that if they want to get something from the other menu they're welcome to upgrade and pay the difference, and that they pay for their drinks (other than soft drinks from the drinks pump thingy)

I want numbers in a couple of weeks time (of people attending).

Do I just call them, or send and invite...or both? i also really don't want people changing their minds at the last min (saying no, then yes on the day or something)

Any thoughts?

hunnycat

i wouldnt mention anything about upgrading, what you should do is send day invites. Everyone knows a day invite is for the full thing and they usually get a meal. ask them to r.s.v.p by a certain date. Provide as many contact options as possible. We are going to set up and email addy closer to the time with our names and wedding date for people to r.s.v.p. too.:D

Tigerlilley1980

Hi there, I would send invites. Hunny it is for their wedding anniversary not the wedding.

The email reply is a great idea, it makes it a lot easier for people to reply!

I would put on the invite what you are paying for menuwise and then also put on that if they wish to upgrade then that is fine! If you think it is a bit awkward to put it on the invite just give people a ring nearer the time and let them know about it!

HTH Tiger xxx

foxxymynx

yeh, it's for a wedding anniversary hun, see, I wasn't well enough to have a wedding reception when we got married, so we are going to sort of do that for our anniversary, take the wedding party out for dinner.

I was going to make menus TBH with the options on, then say that they could upgrade if they wish.

I'm unsure as to whether or not we should pay for 2 or 3 courses TBH though, see every time we go, we can never, ever manage all 3 courses (same with every time we've gone with friends or family, they couldn't manage the 3 courses) and I very much doubt that everyone would manage 3 courses - and the kids menu is only 2 courses. Not only that, but we'll have a cake too.

I just don't want it to be overly complicated *blush*

Mme.Hibou

How about you speak to the restaurant, they offer either a soup and something else for a starter, meat, fish or veggie option for the main, and a couple of options for pudding.

On the invite you ask people to stipulate what they'd like, so you can give the restaurant numbers in advance. Maybe even word it like

Starter

Soup
Garlic bread

Main

Steak
Salmon
Spaghetti (v)

Dessert

Chocolate Fudge
Lemon cheesecake

We would love everyone to join us, please choose a main and a starter or dessert - trust us - you won't need both.

If you could kindly return this to Mrs foxxymynx,123 fake street by September 25th as the restaurant require numbers.

We're looking forward to celebrating our anniversary with all our closest friends and family.

Best Wishes

Mr and Mrs foxxymynx.

foxxymynx

That's pretty much what we've done with the restaurant (they're fantastic, they really really are!) I'm just unsure what to do about inviting people. I don't know whether to send formal invites out or just call people up (for numbers). DH isn't overly keen on sending invitations, although I admit I do want to have invitations. Sounds silly, but I only want the people who want to go to celebrate our anniversary, to go, ot those who want to blag a free meal (and sadly we're inclined to invite one family member who I'm hoping very much that she turns her nose up and says no, however if we don't invite her the family feud wouldn't be worth it - she isn't worth it). Most of the others I think would like to celebrate with us, but I dunno, sadly not all of those that you think care about you, do care about you. Sad but true. I'm also afraid that if we don't tell people til the night, that we're paying, some people won't turn up or won't bring their children, who we do really want there. There's one niece in particular that we very, very much want to be there. She's a very special young woman and I'm afraid that her mother may take the approach of "well, I can afford me and my OH but not the kids" so we were thinking of perhaps getting FIL to encourage them to take the kids, if that makes sense?

THIS is the bit that I hate about family things! LOL

shellsuit

The easiest way would be to invite those that you want there and want to pay for.

Therefore, if anyone else turns up, they can pay for themselves as they didn't have an invite.

Just make sure the invites stipulate just exactly who is invited.

foxxymynx

shellsuit wrote: »

The easiest way would be to invite those that you want there and want to pay for.

Therefore, if anyone else turns up, they can pay for themselves as they didn't have an invite.

Just make sure the invites stipulate just exactly who is invited.

people who aren't invited won't be sitting with us, the restaurant said they'd corden off part of the restaurant for us and our party. other than that, we can't really say to SIL, bring 2 of your daughters but not the other cause we can't stand her, IYSWIM?

shellsuit

foxxymynx wrote: »

people who aren't invited won't be sitting with us, the restaurant said they'd corden off part of the restaurant for us and our party. other than that, we can't really say to SIL, bring 2 of your daughters but not the other cause we can't stand her, IYSWIM?

I know what you mean but you can either upset family or you can invite the odd person and grit your teeth.

I just meant sent the invites and say 'to uncle bob and aunty sue', or 'to brother paul, sil maggie, nephew liam and neice lou lou'......if you know what i mean lol

#basically whoever is named on the invite, they get it paid for them, if someone turns up who isnt named on the invite, they pay for themselves.

foxxymynx

yep, that's what we're doing hun, if someone turns up who isn't invited, they're not getting with the party and they'll be asked to sit elsewhere. At the end of the day it's our day, not theirs